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Late diagnosis of ADHD…
Arriving LATE (story of my life) to my own ADHD party.
I guess I didn’t get that memo… Or did I?
I’m 39 and was DX 11 mo ago.
I am very happily (finally) married to the love of my life, ironically, is a SFC in the Army… At times, it gets pretty interesting around my house…. You know the per sauna of a Drill Sgt. (clean, orderly, stern and disciplined) and his “hot mess” (no descriptions needed, u get it) of a wife?
I have 2 boys 15 & 6, from 2 PREVIOUS marriages. Yes, I said 2 (marriages, that is) But, I’m currently on marriage #5!!!! Hey, don’t judge… It’s obvious one of my weaknesses, Relationships!!!! I thought I just sucked at em’.... It didn’t help that I’m a true Libra, love to be in love…. But… I would attract these husbands that would trick me into loving them, by painting this picture of what their rendition of life was supposed to be, only to find out, they were all just as “mental” as I was!!!
Husband #1 Bipolar, physically and emotionally abusive.
Husband #2 Gay (enough said)
Husband #3 A CPA by day and compulsive gambler by night ( no judgement on my part) but, embezzled/ got caught, 4 felonies… Went away for a bit… Our marriage was so strained, both emotionally and financially, it ended with bounty hunters surrounding our house (just like the movies) watching a man that is a covert narcissist walking away in handcuffs!!!
Husband #4 Passive Aggressive Disorder but had narcissistic tendencies. This marriage liked to have destroyed me!!! Well, it’s safe to say he took away the entire “Maslow’s hierarchy of needs” when he left, moved in with a girlfriend and filed the divorce!!!
Husband #5 (current and last) His first name is Jesus…. So not kidding, but goes by Jr. He must of saw something in me that no other man (other than my dad) has cared enough to see. I was an emotional volcano ready to erupt!
The first time I saw him, I thought to myself “I have finally found my Jesus!!!!” He is my saving grace through this emotional roller coaster… Apparently, I’m building a theme park…
He has not only accepted me just as I am and my shameful past and has supported my DX by getting educated and helping me find resources to help manage my ADHD!!! I freak’n love my husband!!!
I was divorced for 2 yrs, had severe emotional issues (wonder why?) considering my luck in the relationship dept, plus ex that was stupid difficult in sharing 50/50 joint custody of our 6yr old (ironically, has ADHD)
Father refuses to accept this DX for our 6yr old, believes it’s just me “over-reacting” and he is just fine… Although, got a second opinion… Yup, he’s got the ADHD!!! Fighting for sole custody at the moment!!
This is just ONE area of my life, undiagnosed ADHD has affected my life!!! Pretty embarrassing, shameful and depressing as If this doesn’t spell FAILURE… Oh and I’ve only tapped into top of my unDiagnosed ADHD repercussions!!!
I can go on about the other struggles I have faced in the past 15 yrs, but I’m pretty sure the ADHDer that was attempting to stay focused enough to read this, has already left the building!!
I believe that my discovery of this “gift” I call ADHD, has been a blessing!! Once finding the best treatment options, I am able to step back and reflect on the last 15 yrs… It all makes sense.
I’m dedicating myself to educating others about the DANGERS of untreated and undiagnosed ADHD, both in children and adult. I am a walking info-mercial! I now have a new lease on life. I have put goals in place to become an advocate for individuals that need a voice and support/guidance when dealing with late DX of ADHD and how to come to rise when dealing with our Judicial System.
Wow, random, why the Judicial System, you ask?
I want to change how our courts treat or go about punishing repeat drug/alcohol offenders!!! Change their perception on what’s best for one IS NOT best for all… The punishment/money and hoops they set up are great if you truly struggle with substance abuse… But what if your not?
What if you are just like me…Finding out the answers to why? To maybe set up a program where there are other options to suit each individual, instead of waiting time/money on classes,assessments and meetings targeted on addictions such as alcohol/drugs, rather a comorbid condition to what really is the underlying cause. If adults that go undiagnosed having ADHD, they don’t have the cognitive capabilities to control the behavior. We have an impairment, I’m no doctor, but pretty sure no AA/DUI class/meeting, substance abuse targeted assessment will be beneficial when the underlying factor is missed/overlooked. It’s kinda like…. Making a blind person wear reading glasses in efforts to improve their sight!!! Judicial system is just beating a dead horse!!!
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