Gifted ADHD Children
Newly diagnosed, HI
Hi all. New here. And my story mirrors so many of yours, it almost seems a script.
My son Bear is 6 years old, in kinder. We always knew something was a little different with Bear. Bear was 16 days late coming into this world and after an induction had to be removed by emergency C-section. The cord was wrapped twice around his neck. He held his head up and was alert the first day in the hospital. He rolled over at 2 weeks. He slept through the night from the start. He went from sitting to crawling to walking within 3 weeks at 6 months old. He didn’t talk until he was 2.5 years old and when he did, it was paragraphs with perfect grammar. He didn’t potty train until he was almost 5. And just recently at 6 years old got overnight trained. Bear multiplies and divides, he knows things I don’t even know. He loves video games and has beat games his Dad can’t beat. He has an amazing memory. Bear also suffers from SPD, anxiety, and just recently (yesterday) diagnosed with ADHD. He is in ‘trouble’ at school almost every day. He very rarely brings home the coveted “GREEN CARD”. He doesn’t have many friends, as they do not understand him. Some seem to like him, but I think it’s due to his lack of impulse control, they see him, as the boy who will do anything and jump off anything, and get into trouble without any regard for consequences. His attitude changes once we walk through the school doors, his whole countenance changes, he becomes someone else. He is shy and withdrawn but trudges in because he ‘knows he has to do this, mom’.
TBH, I was planning on homeschooling him, through one of the charter schools here next year. His developmental pediatrician and father want me to send him to school. The problem being next year it will be a new school, with new teachers, new friends. I will just be ironing out this 504 plan, which I am still overwhelmed with, how to start, and where.
I contacted Parents Helping Parents and they seem nice and helpful. But I feel so alone. We don’t have a special program for gifted children. The options available for me to ensure his educational opportunities are met are outside of my financial limits. I am just lost and looking for commiseration I suppose.
We have an OT at school, who works with him on the SPD issues, as well as handwriting (which he HATES and says hurts him). We will be starting Behavior Therapy, which I have no idea about. Someone mentioned biofeedback (??) and I sit in front of this computer with all this information in front of me, I just want to cry. I really don’t want to medicate, as I fear of killing off the genius, but who am I to say. There are some days where I wish he were on something so some of the behavior would be easier.
I feel like I could I could handle homeschooling him. He wants to go to school for his ‘friends’. I am lost.
Sorry if I rambled.
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