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Just Diagnosed With ADHD (Children)

7 year old son

I am a mother of two boys, 11years apart!! My oldest son was very quiet and we had no issues with him…fast toward to my second son who entered the world screaming, started walking a 8 months and really hasn’t stopped since.  He is usually referred to as spirited or explosive.  We had constant behavior issues in grade 1 his teacher made it clear she wasn’t a fan of boys and didn’t have problems with girls….
Grade 2 begins and our problems are worse than ever…we went to the pediatrician and he has be rated very high on the ADHD scales but our Dr says let’s wait and see….
I find I am exhausted if I am not screaming or in some sort of choas I am crying…..I don’t know where to go next!
This is not the mother I want to be!  Everything is a battle, we don’t go out often as we don’t know the mood will be and have no family local.
Any suggestions would be appreciated.


Hi Nolkee!

I am so sorry you and your son are struggling. I have been right where you are now.

First, I would get a second opinion. If your son rated high on the ADHD questionnaires, he likely has ADHD. There’s at least one recent study that shows that treating ADHD earlier actually makes for more successful ADHD adults later down the road. It is common practice to treat a child your son’s age. My son was diagnosed and started treatment right after turning 6. Look for a psych who specializes in pediatric ADHD and get a second opinion.

Second, read the book titled The Explosive Child, by Dr. Ross Greene. It provides wonderful insight to kids with ADHD and offers a method of collaborating with your child to resolve issues and teach him skills, like frustration tolerance, that he needs help with. This book changed our family (after reading countless others on ADHD first).

I would request an evaluation through the school as well.

ADDconnect Moderator & Mom to Tween Boy with ADHD and LDs

Posted by adhdmomma on Nov 20, 2013 at 7:51pm

Hi Nolkee,
I am also very sorry to hear about your struggles and frustration.  I totally agree with Penny; I am not sure what the doctor is waiting to see.  It is clear that without help your son and your family will continue to suffer unnecessarily.  The sooner your son begins treatment and learns some of the self-regulation skills that he so desperately needs (as do most children with untreated ADHD) his struggles with school, peers and family will continue.
Your son is also likely legally entitled to accommodations at school that will help him to be able to meet his potential at school and feel more competent in the process.
Also, don’t be so hard on yourself!  You are human!  At the moment you are experiencing some extremely difficult obstacles.  The fact that you are reaching out and asking for help tells me that you are a very caring mother who just needs some support in order to help you get things back on track.  In addition to the developmental pediatrician, there are also support groups, psychologists and coaches who can help both you and your son.
Don’t give up….find a developmental pediatrician and continue asking questions and advocating for your son!
Stay strong!!
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Posted by on Nov 21, 2013 at 5:51am

Penny and Carrie,  thank you very much for the information I am so happy to have found a place where people get what we are going though.
My sons teacher is a great resource and is helping where she can, we have been told he is not eligible or a candidate for a school assessment as he needs are not a severe as others and the budget allows only a few assessments per year.
He has been selected to participate in a early intervention program through the school for some assistance with his self regulation.
I will continue looking for other resources.
Thank you again!

Posted by Nolkee on Nov 21, 2013 at 9:53am

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