Just Diagnosed With ADHD (Children)
7 yr old son, after evaluation, has thoughts of killing himself?!
I am new to this, and there is so much to read. Sorry in advance that this is long. I’m very upset but I would like to know if this is normal and ok!
Some background: I always felt like something was different about my son, and I was so frustrated and didn’t know how to help him. After reading an article written by someone with ADD, I started crying because it gave me hope to help my son. He is impulsive and compulsive, and his behavior stands out the most when he has to stand in line and wait his turn - he’s the one child that never stops moving and looks at everything and everyone except the teacher/coach/instructor. He is very sensitive, and has started having extended feelings of being a horrible kid whenever he didn’t control himself and ends up doing something he shouldn’t or hurts someone on accident, to the point of “wishing he was never born.” He tends to be pessimistic, but he has NEVER said he wanted to hurt himself, run away, or kill himself.
I took him to a general psychiatrist for evaluation. The evaluation was carried out by her assistant, who was not a psychiatrist. Maybe a student or resident, because her office informed me they use them. My son was in the room with the assistant for over two hours, while I myself filled out three pages of questions that included multiple times whether my child has said they wanted to kill himself. I answered NO on all accounts.
After coming out of the room, I asked my son how it went. He looked at me with hollow, fearful eyes, and all he said was, “Sometimes I think I want to kill myself.”
What a horrible, horrible thought for a child to face, for a parent to face, when it was never there before! I feel like it was these questions put that thought into his head. It was the assistant who was inexperienced and callous, and was not tactful and sensitive enough and led him wrongly. She even asked him how he would carry it out! He is 7!! Out of all he was asked in over 2 hours, that is all he focused on and remembered.
My thoughts and concern for my son is all over the place right. If someone can please give me some perspective, let me know if I’m doing the right thing, or if it was wrong, what I can do about it, I am really in need of it right now.
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