Parents of ADHD Teens and Young Adults
ADD 17 year old in jail
HI folks - I’m not asking for advice. I wanted to share my story.
My son has struggled with ADD since he was in preschool. His impulsiveness coupled with his intelligence has guaranteed detentions, poor relationships with teachers, low self esteem, etc. Like many of your kids, he has a good heart and the parents of his friends often comment about what a good, polite kid he is.
The night before his high school graduation he asked me if he could go wrap senior square in saran wrap with a group of his friends. I know his friends, I know the school administration - it sounded like a harmless senior prank and I let him go. Well, in typical ADD/low self esteem behavior - he and another kid decided to take it to another level and burn something. One thing led to another (I think the original item they wanted to burn wouldn’t light) they ended up burning down the stage graduation was set to be held on - also damaging a nearly brand new custom astro turf. $150K worth of damage.
He has been incarcerated since May 29th and we don’t expect him to be released anytime soon. It’s heartbreaking and gut wrenching. We have an attorney, but it’s high profile in our community. the other kid was 18 so they want to try our son as an adult too. I doubt we can win that fight (to keep him treated as juvenile) despite records from doctors, etc. He has never been in trouble with the law before.
ADD kids just cannot be trusted to make good decisions in the heat of the moment. I let him go because he was honest and we have worked so hard to build trust. I regret that decision terribly.
Just think through things you let them do and imagine the trouble they could get into. I don’t know what I could have done differently in his life. He had doctors, therapists, tutors, church mentors, family support, medications, a 504, etc.
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