ADD and Eye Contact... Is it a big deal???
Hi, this is a re-post from another forum, but I wanted to see if I could get a few more opinions. First, I want to add a general question, especially as it applies to ADDers of any age. I’ve done a lot of research online for “ADD and eye-contact”... and almost every hit classifies a lack of eye contact as a more-or-less universally “bad” thing… almost like people who are left-handed used to be stigmatized. I’ll also preface the pasted-in message by saying that, when I’m processing new information, or when I’m one-on-one with my supervisor, eye contact is a *liability* for me. My best means of concentration, focus, and understanding (also being able to respond appropriately) happen when I’m NOT making eye contact, but only when I focus on some inanimate object. It’s not meant as a sign of disrespect, I’m not shy, and I figure it’s my right (under ADA, etc) to be “accommodated” for this little quirk of mine. And I repeat…eye contact equals “sensory overload” when I’m processing new info, instructions, or in brainstorming sessions, etc. Why does every site out there label “no eye contact” as something that must be corrected???” If it works for me, it works for me. I’m also certain this is a product of my ADD, so shouldn’t I be able to ask for a “reasonable accommodation to “NOT maintain regular eye contact if I find it distracting”? Should my supervisor be in a position to force me to engage in a behavior that makes me LESS successful at my job? FYI, I have no customer-facing job functions, and if I did, I would and could make appropriate eye contact… because it’s not likely going to also include a lot of deep thought or concentration.
Okay, I’m deleting the rest of my original message… I’ve just re-asked what I’d like a response to. Thank you in advance for your thoughts.
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