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ADD and Relationship Speed

I have dated a total of two people in my life time (at least for long enough that it could be considered dating). I am a notoriously slow dater. Hand holding is about as far as I will go on the physical intimacy scale, add a little cuddling if I feel really comfortable with that person. However I find that for a long, long, LONG while I am more concerned with … emotional intimacy? The getting to know each other stage of my relationships seems to last a long long time. Admittedly I am only 24 and my experience is anything but vast.

Is this hesitance towards physical intimacy something that other young adults with ADD have? Or is it just my own personality?


Hey I’ve never really had an boy friend and I do date but bad at it! Don’t even get me started on kissing and cuddling! I have an hard time letting people in into my personal space and emotional & physical intimacy seems very scary to me! Ive gotten better with person space, when it comes to my family members. My niece just comes over and hugs me and I think she’s been a good help with space.Your not alone and I’m 28!

Posted by Jjingram on Jul 02, 2014 at 8:40am

Hi Kaitoukid!

Dating can be so awkward! A college student with ADHD wrote a personal essay on dating that you might find interesting:

ADDitude’s ADHD & the City blogger has written a lot about dating as well:

I say stay within your comfort zone and give it time and things will happen naturally. grin

ADDconnect Moderator, Author & Mom to Tween Boy with ADHD and LDs

Posted by adhdmomma on Jul 02, 2014 at 9:48pm

Thank you for telling me! It was a good read.

Posted by Jjingram on Aug 15, 2014 at 3:46am

No you are not alone..Am 27 years and have only had one serious relationship..its harder coz many people want the sex so fast even when there is no emotional intimacy and for me it doesnt happen that way.If someone touches me or kisses me too soon i freeze and cant receprocate back..and you can guess it doesnt last long.but am working on being comfortable with myself and what i like first before i can go out there and date again.
All the best

Posted by shikzkims on Dec 09, 2014 at 9:31am

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