ADHD in Women
ADD different for women
I am one of the last people I would have ever thought would have been diagnosed with ADD until I learned that it “looks” different in women that it does in men.
My DD was diagnosed in January after my mom saw an article about how girls symptoms are different from boys- and she had almost every symptom that was common for girls.
I read more about it in a book by Kathleen Nadeau and couldn’t believe what I was reading. My DD’s pediatrician diagnosed her and our lives have been wonderfully changed. I started reading more about ADD, and started seeing some of my “quirks” in the descriptions of people with ADD, so I was tested.
Even then, the male psychologist I went to said that maybe I didn’t “really” have ADD, because I was successful at work and mostly struggled with organization in the home. He suggested that maybe the problem was really that I just work too hard and that what I really need is a housekeeper.
However, since he did a full battery of tests, I “flunked” enough of them, he felt secure enough in giving a diagnosis of ADD and recommending a trial of medication to my physician. I am wondering this… The articles and books I have been reading that discuss how ADD can be different for women indicate that some women have more impairment with organization, with social cues, social responsibility, and time management.
When I have tried to share with friends my struggles with organization, or trying to keep up with the house work, or meeting the social obligations of keeping friends or sending cards or buying gifts or making/keeping lunch dates, they look at me like I am crazy, and say “just keep up with it”, or “get a system”, or do a little at a time.
I am wondering, have you had difficulty getting diagnosed since you are female and your symptoms may be different? Do others marginalize your symptoms since they don’t look like ADD is supposed to look? Finally, Have you overcome this and have suggestions for others?
Thanks for hearing me out and adding to the discussion.
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