ADHD in Women
ADD mom to preschoolers...do I have to say I need help?
I just joined this website and forum today. I have a 2and 4 year old and I need some help from other women who understand. Please only respond if you have useful comments. I don’t need judgement right now.
I have a meltdown about once or twice a week. I am staying home with my kids, and I am really struggling to get a handle on everything. The house is always a mess, and kids are a mess (because they’re little kids and fighting over toys,etc.) and I feel like I’m the biggest mess of them all.
I can’t seem to get a handle on it all. Laundry, dishes, and the worst sin of all, the massive clutter and disorganization. I am not a hoarder, but I just can’t seem to figure out a way to start organizing and to keep up, since my kids pull everything back out again.
And on particularly bad days, I land in a heap over the dishes after the kids are finally in bed and sob in frustration and exhaustion to my bewildered husband. I feel so worthless that I can’t seem to figure it all out like a normal competent person. He’s a great guy, but I don’t think he quite understands what my problem is, my guilt and the pressure I feel to get my house neat and tidy, even if I try to explain it.
And the worst thing of all, I find it hard to concentrate and play with my kids. The emotional meltdowns my kids have ( because they’re little kids) are overwhelming to me sometimes and hard for me to maneuver because I have a low frustration threshold myself. I eventually end up yelling and frustrated and then I feel miserable at myself for losing it. I really want to do things with my kids that connect us and have fun with them, but I can’t have fun right now when it’s a constant struggle.
Please help. Any constructive ideas you have are much appreciated.
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