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Parents of ADHD Preteens

ADHDMomma - Thank you for your book.

Penny - I just had to post a note to you to thank you for pouring your heart out in your book, Boy Without Instructions.

As you know, I also have an 11-year-old boy with ADHD/Dyspraxia (mild)/Written Expression Disorder/processing issues/severe executive functioning difficulties, etc.

Your book touched me like no other book (or even personal conversation) has ever touched me.  I am still reading it, but I wanted to tell you that I feel like I am reading an account of my own life in your pages.  You have truly captured all the joy, frustration, anger, sorrow, anxiety, happiness, regret, hope, confusion, fear, pain and guilt that goes along with this journey that we share. 

I listed those emotions in no particular order because, as you know, this is a roller coaster ride with NO rhyme or reason to it, and you can go from a very high high to a very low low in a matter of minutes. :\

As you describe each of the steps you’ve taken, I have been right there with you. I have walked in your footsteps and you in mine. The skill and accuracy with which you’ve captured the experiences and the beauty with which you describe them through your words is amazing. I can’t imagine anyone telling this story any better than you have and capturing all the heart-wrenching emotion that we go through. It must have been very difficult to write.  I know it is YOUR story about which you’ve written, but the path for me has been identical, and I’m sure the similarities are also striking for anyone else who reads it. You have done a great service to millions of other ADHD/LD moms!

I cry while reading your book. I cry while thinking about what I’ve read in your book.  Your words are cathartic for moms like us who so often feel like islands in the middle of a very vast ocean. It is a great reminder that those of us who share this journey have so much in common and we can learn a great deal from each other. I wish the geography was such that we were all closer; what an awesome community we would make!

Thanks for putting this experience in writing for all to share. It’s really a remarkable book, Penny, and I just wanted to thank you for the gift you’ve given us. smile




You gave me goosebumps! Thanks so much for your note and your kind words. I knew our boys are similar, and expected that you’d see a lot of your story in mine.

What I didn’t expect was that every reader would feel like I was telling their story, despite most of us having such different details. I guess the underlying emotional struggles of this special parenthood are a common thread for us all. Just about everyone who has left a review or sent me a personal note has said they felt like I wrote their story. I hope it’s as cathartic for the reader as it was for me to write.

We must meet some day Jody! Our boys seem to be almost long-lost twins. grin Feel free to friend me on FB.

ADDconnect Moderator & Mom to Tween Boy with ADHD and LDs

Posted by adhdmomma on Apr 28, 2014 at 5:29pm

I wish we could meet.  I have a feeling the boys would get along famously… Message me with how to find you on FB.


Posted by JAMurphy on Apr 28, 2014 at 5:37pm

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