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Single Parents Raising ADHD Children

ADHD & Negativity

My son is 10 years old and seems to always dwell on the downside of thing on a daily basis. I"very tried to reinforce the positive of things and I’ve also discussed that his focus seems very negative.

He is also very immature. Everything request or change to his day is met with tears or extreme whining.

Is this normal for ADHD kids?


My son is 9 and is not do much m negative bit just damn depressed!! He has been since before the ritalin tabs. Although he takes a quarter tablet of anti depressant too. He do sent want to do anything, but even go outside. He just only wants to play the iPad and watch TV!!! I don’t know what to do. I’ve tried all sports and he hates them all.

Posted by nickijoydancer on Jan 10, 2014 at 8:51am

Hi ncnewfie,

I do think it’s common for kids with ADHD to seem to focus on the negative for two reasons: (1) there is typically more negative in their lives, and (2) they often are over-sensitive so something that seems inconsequential to you or I might be very upsetting to them.

Dr. Hallowell teaches parents to find your child’s strengths and talents and focus on and nurture those things. If you haven’t read Superparenting ADD, I highly recommend it. Dr. Hallowell did an expert webinar with called “The Bright Side of ADHD: Embracing and Succeeding with ADHD.” You can listen to the podcast or read the transcript here:

If you feel your child is depressed, talk to their doctor or therapist about that right away. It is fairly common to have depression in conjunction with ADHD.

ADDconnect Moderator & Mom to Tween Boy with ADHD and LDs

Posted by adhdmomma on Jan 10, 2014 at 7:34pm

Help! my son is 10 and all he want to do it watch tv and play on the tablet and watch video games what do I do

Posted by latricedmorgan on Mar 23, 2014 at 12:12am

hi latricedmorgan
sounds like my son!! we fight about this all the freaking time. 
So this is what I do… I tell him when he gets him self out of bed in the morning with out me bothering him over and over again, if he gets dressed with out fighting me and if we make it out of the house on time I let him use electronics on the way to school and I make sure he knows when i say give me the electronics back he has too or else he wont get it back later. When I ask him for it back and he doesnt want to give it i remind him what the consequences are.  i usualy get an i hate you or a your mean i ask for it again and he gives it to me.  i stay very calm.
we do electronics on the weekends usually I give them more time like an hour. 
Electronics during school days only and only when all school work and chores are done.  I make sure he knows the rules before and i re enforce them ALL THE TIME.  I have ended up hiding electronics and I say that too if he doesn’t follow the rules I’ll end up hidding them.  I tell him that so he knows and I say whatever you want just know later you will not get electronic time.
My friend sets a timer and sticks to that. 
You need to be firm set rules and re enforce them.  It’s super exhausting lol I know.  Picking battles help.
Good luck let me know what worked for you

i hope this advice helps!

Posted by Ileaname on Feb 06, 2015 at 9:55pm

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