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ADHD and Dyslexia

My 8 year old daughter has ADHD and dyslexia.  For both issues we are supposed to be doing homework with her.  All the adults in the house work at least full time, and there is no way for any of us to be able to be home and help her with the exercises before 5pm, at which point she is exhausted and her medication has pretty much worn off.  I would LOVE to get her a tutor, but she has to go to after school care, so unless I could find a tutor that will pick her up from school and then take care of her until 5, I don’t think that will work, and I doubt I can afford a tutor who can do that AND specializes in ADHD/dyslexia.  Any suggestions?  How do other people do the work necessary to help their child get past/cope with LD and ADHD and work at the same time? 

Thanks!

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Unfortunately in our case we made a decision to live in poverty.

Sold business, gave up full-time work, was emotionally and physically available to support the child.

That was six years ago.  Just now seeing the the payoff in a child who is in early teens and still very engaged in learning and succeeding with academic and personal endeavors.

Make no mistake, it was a very hard path to take, but I only ever had the long term in minds eye, not the day to day hardship which we continue to endure.

Posted by Ausmacuser on Jun 29, 2014 at 5:55am

Is there an afterschool care place that offers homework help? I know that a lot of the Boys & Girls Clubs here in the Los Angeles area offer both, and I think some of the YMCA and YWCA locations do as well.

The other option might be to ask her doctor for a short-term “booster” dose that only lasts a few hours that she can take about an hour before you pick her up from afterschool care—it could help with her concentration for schoolwork but not interfere with her sleep since it should wear off within 3-4 hours.

Posted by cinegirl on Jun 30, 2014 at 3:55am

If she is doing aftercare at her school, is there a teacher who would be willing to work with her on homework a little while after school? Even if it is only a couple days a week, it would be helpful.

From what I understand from other parents of kids with ADHD who employ tutors, it’s less about the tutor’s expertise, and more about a neutral third party helping with homework, as that removes the emotional charge between parent and child that is inevitable when trying to do homework with a child with ADHD and LDs. With that in mind, someone in afterschool might be able to help, or that would open the door to more possibilities with private after school care.

I have also met some parents who get up early and do homework with their child before school. That stress first thing in the morning would never work for my son, but it does work for some families.

Penny
ADDconnect Moderator, Author & Mom to Tween Boy with ADHD and LDs

Posted by adhdmomma on Jun 30, 2014 at 6:51pm

Now I’m an Adult with ADHD and learning disabilities.  I take Concerta in the morning and it I need to do something that my ADHD would get int he way, I take 10-20 mg of Ritalin in the afternoon.  You have to be careful because the Ritalin can keep you up at night.  Might be something to talk to you doctor about.

Hang in there!

Jen

PS - I have a BS in Computer Science with a minor in Mathematics!  So your daughter has a bright future!  Your support will mean everything!  I know my parents support and belief in me is the reason I have gone so far!  Keep up, keeping up!

Posted by h82read on Jul 02, 2014 at 2:32pm

I’m not so worried about her doing school-homework, as how do I fit in the home-homework?  Like working on a Dyslexia workbook, ADHD workbook, etc?  Her school-homework she manages fine, it’s fitting in what she _doesn’t_ learn in school that’s the issue.  I think I’m going to try to hire a high school or college student to work with her in the afternoons.

Since she has to be at school by 7:20 AM, there is NO way we could get up earlier to get stuff done in the morning.  6 AM is early enough for both of us!

Thanks, Jen, I know she has a bright future, I just want to help her there as much as possible!  She’s already going to have to work harder because of the ADHD, and the Dyslexia makes it twice as bad!

Posted by crushedvelvet42 on Jul 07, 2014 at 2:24pm

You need to set your priorities. Right now, from reading what you have written for what ever reason it is not making sure your daughter is getting what she needs to succeed.  I am a single mom of a child with ADHD and SPD, I myself have ADHD, SPD and dyslexia so I understand the frustration that comes with not having a lot of money. I also know what it is like to graduate from high school and only read at a second grade reading level. I had to learn to read and do basic functional math and learn basic science in college because the teachers gave up on me and I grew up during a time that parents did not know the laws. I say not to judge to but to encourage you to do what you canto change the situation your daughter is experiencing, even if that means you have to downsize and tighten your budgets. My parent had to do it they had three of us with ADHD. I have had to do it. It is hard but our children need to come first. Let your daughter know that she is worth the time without telling her were giving up…. to help you, but that you want to spend more time with her because she is worth it.  Oh by the way because I had the support of my parents through college I have and Assoc. degree and a B.A. degree as well I am working toward a Masters degree. With support we can go far and be very successful, I can tell with out the support that I received from my parents even when they did not know how to help I would have never graduated high school let a lone go to college.

Posted by MissyMiss on Jul 07, 2014 at 11:30pm

I am on the same page with you, my daughter has the same two DX:/

What works for us now is the K12- public school enrollment It took 4 hours to do homework at night, meds out of her system, tired and frustrated.  This school is the best for children with Dyslexia and ADHA.  No homework, we work at our own pace and she loves the fact that she can stay in her PJ’s all day if she likes.  The work is extremely hard, but, you are there to help your child, there is no falling through the cracks.  You learn right with them and the field trips are wonderful

There are many teachers for your child to learn from and this public school bases grades on completion of the courses not always the grade. You can complete the course and know everything about the subject, but, when it comes to taking the test, you may freeze and not be a good test taker, such as my child at times. She has always been an honor roll student, this has come each year with tears, yelling and with her just being frustrated and unhappy.

I just want you to check it out. The school supplies the computer and all the books and the structure. The kids have to attend their class connects online with the teacher and their class mates. If you want to jam during the week and take Friday off, or work on Saturday and just read on Monday, its up to you. These kids are graduating with their Associates Degree as well as their High School Diploma’s.

Its not for everyone, but the curriculum if based on children with ADHD and the fonts used are the best for children with DYSLEXIA.

I’m not sure which state your in but just Google K 12 public home school.

Blessings,

Melody
MommyofKenzie

Posted by mommyofkenzie on Nov 16, 2014 at 2:50pm

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