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ADHD and Sports
ADHD and Hockey
I have an 11 year old son who was diagnosed with ADHD in 2nd grade. I tried medication and didn’t like how it made him irritable and zombie-like. Therefore, he hasn’t been on meds since about 3rd grade. Well his transition to middle school has been a MAJOR struggle for him so I now have an appointment to put him on meds but can’t get in until January. Anyway, my post isn’t about debating about meds- just giving some background info. At this point I am doing it because I can’t watch him struggle anymore and the benefits will outweigh any side effects. He has played hockey since age 3 and has always been one of the best players on any team he has been on. This year he made the team he was going for and with making that team there are certain expectations the coach has for him. Since his academic and social struggles at school began a few months ago they have only been getting worse by the day. Now, for the first time ever, he is not playing his sport very well. He will have a great game and then the next game he will be so off with everything. An example is the other day he just skated off the ice in the middle of the game to get water and the coach and his whole team started screaming at him to get back on the ice. I feel for him because I know he has been struggling. The coach told him yesterday he had a TERRIBLE game. His self esteem is almost to 0 between this and school. I I try my best with the pep talks but he is just starting to really give up. Anyone experience this same thing? Like I mentioned, our apt for meds isn’t until January so I need to get his self esteem back before it is to late. Also not sure what to tell the coach because he is just baffled by my son’s performance. Any tips or has anyone experienced anything similar? I am so sick over watching my son struggle- it is awful.