Parents of ADHD Children
ADHD, playing me, or something more?
I’m going to kill my son. (Not literally. Don’t call the cops. But I seriously feel like being violent sometimes!)
He is 11 and in grade 6. This is his first year at middle school. When he was younger, he would do silly things without thinking, would move a lot and have melt downs. At some point (grade 4 or so), those things weren’t normal for his age anymore. His teacher suggested having him tested for ADHD, and he was deemed mild to moderate. With plenty of sleep, regular meals, and some adjustments, he was doing fine at school (still some issues with impulse control, but grades were still high As and Bs).
This year is totally different. It’s like he’s self destructing. Issues with friends seem ok, it’s the school work that’s an issue.
He’s outright refused to open his math book to work in class. He acts like he can’t find answers when his teacher tells him where to look. And homework… dear Lord! It’s so painful!!
He had a math test that he got a C- on. They were supposed to retest during lunch. He sat for less than 10 minutes then left. His teacher asked if he didn’t want to look it over again and he said no and left. The other kids took the full hour, some even coming back after school to finish.
He had to do corrections on that math test, so we were working on it just now. He flipped out at everything I said. They’re working on decimals and he’s saying he doesn’t know how to subtract. He’s fighting me and telling me the way he’s doing it (very obviously wrong) is right. And he won’t give in. I’m trying my best to be calm, not dramatic, and patient, but I feel like punching something! I’m trying to help him, walk him through it, break it down, but he’s belligerent, rude and smashing things. And as soon as he’s done we’re supposed to go to a movie! A movie he really wants to see!!
I’m totally drained. I have no idea what to do. He can’t treat me like this, but I don’t know how to make him stop *and* get the work done!
I went back to our doctor and asked to be referred to the ADHD clinic at the hospital. My husband and I went to a seminar there and of anyone, I think they know what they’re talking about. But I’m worried they won’t accept him…
Is he getting worse? Or is this just a preteen bid for control no matter the costs?
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