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ADVICE PLEASE!


I have a 6 yr old son, and today his teacher advised me to get him test for add. I dont want to get him tested because I dont believe that he has add. He have issues focusing but he is at a average level for his grade. He has been improving since the being of the school year. When I talk to his teacher all she tells me is that he always have to be doing something(he isnt in any bad trouble), he cant just sit still and do his work.( Mind you he is 6). Before I get him tested, If I decide to get him tested what should I do. I’ve been doing some research about changing diet and things like that. Can someone guide me to some more information. Thanks in Advance

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If your son’s teacher is advising he be tested there is no harm in doing so. You’ll then have the full picture of what’s going on. Whatever the conclusions these results will be helpful to you, your son and his teacher in providing the best environment for him.

ADHD is a neurologically based condition and changing diets, which may be helpful in some respects, will not address the underlying causes of the condition. By having the testing done you can get advice on all of the options available to you, including medication if it will help your son. 

I encourage you to follow the advice of your son’s teacher. She’s the one who sees his behavior in school all day and most likely knows when it’s different from his peers. It can only help, so before you change diets, etc. find out all you need to know! Try not to worry. Information is power and you’ll soon adjust to whatever challenges you face!

Posted by Havebeenthere on Dec 07, 2013 at 2:17am

Thanks

Posted by ladyof3 on Dec 07, 2013 at 2:40am

I agree with Havebeenthere.  Don’t wait until there is a huge problem.  This could really impact your son’s self esteem and social well-being.

I wish a teacher had spoken up when my son was exhibiting symptoms.  Good luck.

Posted by Pdxlaura on Dec 07, 2013 at 3:36am

Your post reminds me of our son.  In grade 2 his teacher asked us to have him tested for ADHD.  At the time we were insulted !!  He was not very hyper, was getting OK marks and had friends.  We listened politely but never did it.

Fast forward to my now grade 9 son. He was diagnosed in grade 7 when his behavior at home became more troublesome and school became rotational classes (one teacher per subject). We still can’t believe how the teacher saw what we didn’t see.

I’d have him tested. There is no harm and at least you’ll know.

Posted by staypositive on Dec 07, 2013 at 12:39pm

That is great that he is not struggling in school. Fingers crossed that will last. But ADHD is not jus attention. It is also decision making, being able to accomplish goals, emotional regulation. The worst thing about going untreated is the toll it takes on a child’s self esteem. It is untenable to be constantly told to do something you cannot. To be in trouble all the time. To be the center of negative attention constantly. To be told to control something you cannot control. You, I’m sure you would be quite frustrated and upset if day after day your boss insisted you change your eye color and then were disciplined for not. You as an adult, someone with a long history of experience, managing frustration and difficult situations would have a hard time with this. Imagine a child being told these things by people he depends on for his safety and well being. That is what kids with ADHD struggle with and it absolutely shreds their self esteem. Now why wouldn’t you just get a diagnosis to be sure?

Posted by YellaRyan on Dec 08, 2013 at 6:36am

I have two sons, one has ADHD, the other doesn’t. Both boys move a lot and often have a hard time sitting still (especially when they were six!)

The difference at that age was the impulsivity. My ADHD son would do things without thinking. That’s also the age, but looking back, that’s really the only difference.

My non-ADHD son can move and will take things in as he goes. He’s like a sponge… that moves. My ADHD son is moving but not hearing what the teacher is saying. He is very bright though and has a great memory so managed in school very well until about grade 4 when his teacher suggested he might have ADHD. I thought that was silly until I started reading the characteristics, and sure enough they almost all fit. But then again, he was 9 by then so for many of the characteristics, they were no longer age appropriate behaviors.

I would suggest having the testing first before anything else. If he’s diagnosed, I’d proceed cautiously… Learn as much as you can about ADHD, work on getting him 10 hours of sleep a night, at least an hour of exercise per day, protein at every meal, etc. There are a lot of steps that can be taken before you even get close to drugs, etc.

For us, my son is now 11 and in middle school and he’s no longer pulling in As and Bs. He’s very unhappy a lot. We found a great psychiatrist through the ADHD clinic here and we’re going to try medication now. (She told us there is a huge amount of brain development that happens again at this age, and it often becomes hard for them to cope.) But it’s been a journey leading to this. We didn’t jump at the medication to begin with and tried everything else first. You can do the same and make decisions as you go.

Posted by Rai0414 on Dec 08, 2013 at 6:10pm

Nobody ever wants to believe its their child with a disorder…but dont ignore the signs. He may focus with you, but not with the teachers. At least knowing if he is adhd will have you do your research in how to better treat his disorder. Like getting a watch the vibrates to remind him the goal he needs to achieve.

Posted by vabronxboogie on Dec 09, 2013 at 8:21pm

Once someone is labeled add/adhd they carry that with them for the rest of their lives, which is fine for me Im old and don’t work but, times are changing and when anyone fills out an application whether it be for school, driver license, job application (any application) they must state that they have add/adhd under Any Mental Illness.  Which I think is awful, no ones business either way.

Try gluten free, look it up online it works wonders for me and now Im medication free and not foggy.  Also many other moms used sugar free, milk free, and Im also a vegetarian now.  Many will disagree but why wait try a diet change before giving your child addicting life changing medications.  This is just my point of view and trust me 9 out 10 people do not agree with me.  Best of Luck.  Also did you know that 1 out of 3 ten year old boys are now on medication for add/adhd, look it up, try naturalnews.com or just google it.

Posted by BexIssues on Dec 11, 2013 at 5:41pm

Please get your son tested—for his sake as well as your own. It’s amazing what experienced teachers pick up. If he does have ADHD, you will see his behaviour worsen over time. Teaches/peers/other parents/caregivers will expect him to mature and for that maturity to be reflected in his behaviour. But that doesn’t happen with ADHD kids. They lag behind, forget things, don’t pick up on social cues.

My son started showing signs of ADHD when he was in pre-school. I too listened politely, was concerned but thought: “My son’s just being a kid.” By eight, he was on meds but unfortunately, my ex-husband was against that so my son was taken off the meds and suffered for it, as did I, because my son lives full-time with me and I had to deal with his behaviour and the complaints from school and after-school caregivers. Long story short: I got a court order for the meds, and my now 10-year-old son’s doing better. But lots of time was wasted, his self-esteem was trashed, and my stress level went through the roof, which didn’t help him. As one person has said, ADHD is much more than just about lack of attention—it’s the impulsivity, the action without the forethought, that gets our kids in trouble and turns other kids away from them. The rejection is terrible for our sensitive children. They need our support.

I would really stay away from gluten free etc. advice. You will drive yourself nuts with all the feed-him-this-food/supplement-not-that stuff.. ADHD has nothing to do with gluten. Give your son good, healthy food, and yes, protein at every meal. And exercise to get out his frustration, if anything.

All the best to you and your boy.

Posted by Camille1521 on Jan 02, 2014 at 7:19am

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