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Hello.  I am needing as much help as possible, but first I’ll give a little background info:  I was diagnosed ADHD when I was young, and have been on medication since. They work fine during the day and my doctor even prescribed me a second dosage for the evenings.  I am finding that I can relate well to both sides in the articles that talk about one spouse having ADD/ADHD and one not, so it is difficult to put the advice into practice.  My fiance was diagnosed when he was younger, but has never managed any of the symptoms; and three of our four children I am sure have it in one form or another.  Our present situation is that he is Stay-at-Home-Dad, and I am taking on the challenge of college and a new job (plus trying to be Mom, wife, housekeeper, and new puppy trainer).  School year is upon us, and our home is complete chaos.  I would definitely appreciate any help in how to handle the regular-ol day-to-day tasks to keep a home running; yes, even just the basic things.  Right now it feels like we are just people living in a house, rather than a family in a home.  Thanks.

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You are managing a lot. A good way to bring the family together is to work on getting rid of stuff. These days we no longer own stuff. It owns us. If that is hard to start then hiring a home organizer for just a few days will give you a jump start. Thereafter, in between all the routines, it’s good to work on only one project at a time.

Posted by John Tucker, PhD, ACG. ADHD Coach on Aug 24, 2014 at 10:03am

Hi Maize!

It is so tough to be a mom and have ADHD—motherhood makes many demands on the skills that are often weak when you have ADHD (http://www.additudemag.com/adhd/article/2539.html).

There are ways to take control of your household when you have ADHD. Start by making a schedule for housework (http://www.additudemag.com/adhd/article/988.html), then, if you can stick to the schedule, procrastination won’t lead to overwhelm (http://www.additudemag.com/adhd/article/9869.html).

Remember, small changes can lead to big results (http://www.additudemag.com/adhd/article/10591.html).

Penny
ADDconnect Moderator, Author & Mom to Tween Boy with ADHD and LDs

Posted by adhdmomma on Aug 25, 2014 at 1:22pm

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