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ADHD in Women

Adderall, Career and Pregnancy

After years of career maladies, I was finally diagnosed with ADD. It took me a while to accept that it was true but before taking the meds I was almost fired from my job and after I started taking Adderall, I became the star employee.

Since then, I have been promoted to a great new position as a project manager- I started in January. I’ve had to increase my dosage to keep up with the demands of my job.

All would be well if I weren’t planning on starting IVF soon. I need to start sooner than later due to my age. I am worried about my performance once I stop taking the adderall and start taking all of the hormones required for IVF…. there are tons of them.

I need to try to learn to manage my symptoms before I start IVF but I dont have much time. I am anxious and sad about the entire situation.

So basically I need to learn to manage my symptoms in the next few months. I’m hiring a professional organizer to help me at work and eventually at home. I am trying to learn to use Evernote, trying to sleep 7-8 hours a day, exercise and eat right. OMG. The list is so long…. did I miss anything? Any suggestions?


Just keep in mind that if holding down a job was hard that having children and holding down a job will be a thousand times harder.  I held down a demanding job without drugs & knowing nothing about ADHD; becoming a parent is what caused all those balls I was juggling to drop right to the floor.

Then add the fact that all your children will have a 50/50 chance of inheriting your ADHD—and that will make your job of parenting about ten times harder than “normal.”

So, yes, you’ve got only a few months to figure out how to juggle more balls than you even know exist.  Good luck because it takes a lot longer than a few months!

Sorry—I’m more negative than “usual” tonight.  Probably should just keep my mouth shut.

Posted by BC on Apr 27, 2014 at 7:31am

I agree with BC! Negative or not, it’s true!

However, you are ahead of the game. I have four children, three have ADHD. I was diagnosed AFTER them!  Your situation has forced you to choose a comprehensive treatment plan rather than relying on medication alone. It may be a blessing in disguise. Just think how much the lifestyle changes and tools would have benefited you before you knew about your ADHD. Those benefits will still be yours when you cease taking medication.  Moreover, you will retain them when you return to your medication equipping you that much more for success in all aspects of your life! Kudos to you!

Posted by Gothope! on Apr 27, 2014 at 4:14pm

Thanks for the food for thought BC…. having kids will make everything a lot harder to manage. I hadnt really thought about that. I really dont know how others manage a career, their households, marriages, children AND a social life! Seriously.

Thanks Gothope for the positive spin. I am looking forward to mastering this thing called organization and you are right… good things should result from it… especially when I start taking the meds again. I was going to say if I start taking meds but it sounds like kids will require me to use them.

Posted by ms.monet on Apr 27, 2014 at 9:21pm

Another snack for thought:

One of the “typical” life experience for women with ADHD (especially those who have inattentive or combined types) is that they go through the educational system completely under the radar (school records with little or no behavior problems; if relatively high IQ then school records are more like The Model Student). 

Transition from academics (which they’ve mastered) to career is a bit tough, but with that Model Student label they manage to transition well (just with lots more effort & much less of a social life than “neurotypicals”).

THE thing that typically causes the entire stack of cards to fall is when they have children because there is NO routine, NO predictability, NO sleep, and often NOT enough help—even IF help is available they don’t ask for it because Model Student & Model Career Person labels have given them the impression they can handle anything.  This is when everything just starts to slowly crumble.  All too often the only thing that eventually sheds any light on things is when their children are old enough to now start experiencing some school difficulties (which totally blows Model Student Mom’s mind).  What these young kids are expected to do at a very young age is nothing like what we experienced in school. 

Only after the kids get diagnosed does everything make sense.  But that doesn’t really help now that your old labels of Mrs. Close To Perfect have all been stripped away to expose some Huge Core Defect that went unnamed/undiagnosed/MIS-diagnosed for a decade or so.

A great reference for you will be Jennifer Koretsky.  She has been coaching & blogging about her ADHD clients and her own ADHD challenges for a very long time.  She authored a book called “Odd One Out: The Maverick’s Guide…”  In her very well chronicled life online she recently began her next life challenge—becoming a parent.  Her experiences & advice will be invaluable to you right now.

Posted by BC on Apr 27, 2014 at 10:32pm

Thats me! My mom doesnt even believe me when I tell her I have ADD because I was a model student. Kind of annoying for her to think I’m just making things up but thats another story.

I just clicked on the link and read a bit of Jennifers blog. It’s just what I was looking for. THANK YOU! grin

Posted by ms.monet on Apr 28, 2014 at 12:28am

Because I always made good grades my mom totally dismissed my fear of taking any exam—told others any time I’d talk about the DREAD/FEAR of taking Board Exams that I was just trying to get attention. 

Said this about me into my adulthood because as a Physician Assistant we have to re-take our Medical Boards (over all of general medicine & psychiatry) every six years.

Posted by BC on Apr 28, 2014 at 12:41am

I came here for similar help. I struggled for so long and my meds have been a g-dsend but now I need to go off them because we want to try to get pregnant.

I am so scared I will lose my job like I have lost jobs in the past.

I don’t know how to stick with non-med strategies. Every time I have tried in the past I get overwhelmed and give up too quickly.

If anyone has private messaged additional resources to the OP - please send them my way as well! Thanks.

Posted by betsyjaneusa on May 28, 2014 at 3:48am

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