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Anger Management and ADHD

Adhd and aging

For yrs I have always been told I am a very patient person…..the last 2 yrs I am NOT patient WHATSOEVER!!!!!!!
My adrenaline starts to boil waiting in traffic…..I try to trigger the lights by going over line….adrenaline starts when waiting in lines…..if someone is making JUST ALITTLE bit of noise I start getting VERY angry….when I hear a car alarm going off or fire truck/ambulance going by I just about lose it…..if someone/something is moving to slow I panic….my adrenaline starts in and I start trying to move things along…..anyone that knew me a few yrs ago would not know me now.waive gotten fired from 2 jobs in the last 2 yrs becuz of these symptoms!!!!!!!  ......sometimes when iam driving I cant wait to get home….off the road becuz of my adrenaline…..once home I feel safe and feel everyone else is safe….. I never use to be like this…...diagnosed 3 yrs ago with “classic signs of ADHD”......any thoughts people?????


I’m no expert but I think it sounds more like anxiety than ADHD. And I know that being ADHD can also make you more emotional - quick to get angry.  Maybe ask your doctor about anxiety.

Posted by staypositive on Jul 15, 2014 at 12:18am

I have have a similar experience. I was diagnosed about 3 yrs ago but about 3 yrs prior to that I noticed those very same things with myself. I felt like it was the beginning of a mental/personality transformation and began searching everywhere for someone to explain it to me. I did learn that I have always been like this but I was able to handle it for the most part possibly because of my prior career being more physical, active, and hands on. I moved into a career that is complete opposite, a desk job. And was a single parent of 3 boys at the time for 10 yrs. I guess it was the added stress and due to degenerative joint disease in my knees phys act is out of the question.

Posted by wesleyutwood on Jul 15, 2014 at 2:19pm

It does sound like you could be dealing with anxiety @joani. Anxiety can manifest in many different ways, including irritability and anger. Take this online quiz to see if you possibly have anxiety:

Ultimately, you should talk to your doctor about what you are experiencing. There are things you can do to help yourself with stress and anxiety too (

ADDconnect Moderator, Author & Mom to Tween Boy with ADHD and LDs

Posted by adhdmomma on Jul 15, 2014 at 3:37pm

I am having a similar issue.  I remember even in childhood getting very frustrated and angry when my grandfather moved in with us for the winter and he was in the room next to mine, separated by a louvered door.  I could hear him coughing and being up during the night, clearing his throat, and it drove me crazy!  No ability to sympathize wink  I finally moved myself into the front spare room, angry because I had been forced to be in that situation and being the kid no one cared about my end of the deal.  I am not proud to remember being such a brat.  I don’t have a lot of memories about who I was as a kid but that was one of them.

Now, at 49, I’m in menopause and I’m finding that I can wake up already irritable, get so easily frustrated by being thwarted in things I am trying to do (or not being able to find things), and I am getting angry at my dogs for minor things.  We have dogs, not children.  I honestly don’t know how ADDers ever manage to have kids! I’ve always felt that I was still a kid, myself, too immature to have kids of my own - I’d be a terrible parent.

I have Australian shepherds that I train for herding competition, and they are very high drive.  They are energetic and happy and get excited anytime I head for the door, thinking something fun is going to happen.  I find myself getting very irritated and angry with them when they fly around in excitement or get demanding of my attention.

I am in the process of being diagnosed for ADD, and so far my doctor definitely sees OCD and anxiety, along with the depression I thought was my primary diagnosis all my life. 

Yesterday, I was so irritable, and then my husband and I went shopping and we went to different stores..I ended up in the black hole of time and didn’t hear my cell phone as he called to ask where the heck I was and what was taking so long…at the end of the day I realized I had been abusive of his time and apologized for being so annoying.  He said, yes, I was being annoying. That comment caused me to slide down the rabbit hole of despair, and I went off to cry and beat myself up as being unloveable and undeserving…

Did I mention I tend to be hypersensitive? LOL!  I really am hating being in this place.

Posted by SquirrelyGirl on Dec 16, 2014 at 5:29am

My son is 53, his son just diagnosed with ADHD, dyslexia and learning disabilities.
I am sure my son has ADHD, living with us with his son.  He is unable to manage money, has nothing always broke. Has no patience with anything, loses things like wallet and phone constantly.  Unable to pay his way, drinks and gambles.  I asked the doctor to has him tested hoping medication might be the answer

Posted by SOM on Mar 09, 2015 at 10:59pm

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