Parents of ADHD Teens and Young Adults
I have a 14 year old boy. He is increasingly going against our instructions and is very rude. When he is rude (calling us names or swearing), the consequence is that he cannot have computer time for that day. He gets very upset and angry by this consequence. We have a password on the computer so he cannot get in unless he asks our permission. He now somehow can get into the computer and plays games (such as Minecraft). We have used the computer as a reward - when he does some homework, he can have time on the computer. I have used a timer for his use on the computer. When his time is up on the computer, and the timer rings, he still ‘pushes it’ and continues to plays. He gets angry when I ask him again to get off computer. I have even turned the router off to stop him playing computer. Though I give him warning about this, he gets angry when the router is turned off. He has use of the computer after school, as I said, as a reward. I am now seriously considering him not having use of the computer Monday through to Friday, and he can only use it on Saturday and Sunday. I am very tempted to pack computer away and may have to earn it back. But the computer is for the family, it is not just for him. As he is becoming more verbal, and somewhat threatening physically, what are your thoughts? I am fed up with his rudeness and threats. Help.
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