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Couples With One ADHD Partner

Anxiety, me... ADHD, him
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Do any of the spouses/significant others deal with anxiety? If so, how is this working for you being in a relationship with an ADHD person? Can that combination work and be successful? I don’t know if my anxiety amplifies his ADHD traits or if his ADHD worsens my anxiety, but as of now it does not seem like a good combo. Thanks in advance for your feedback!

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This combination can be fine if you are both willing to   be gracious with one another and willing to adopt the attutude of a student. Learning about one another and these issues can be a great project. A pivotal issue is change; one can change oneself; that’s the key to growth and happiness.

Attempting to change another is the key to misery and disaster.

In my coaching I see both extremes. Watching those who do not get this simple rule of living is tragic while helping those willing to switch their thinking is a constant joy.

Posted by John Tucker, PhD, ACG. ADHD Coach on Apr 10, 2017 at 10:15am

I agree that we can only work on changing ourselves. Thank you for your insight and help!

Posted by Roxyfox80 on Apr 11, 2017 at 3:17am

I have mild situational anxiety and some OCD tendencies, and my boyfriend has ADHD.  We still have our triggers and fights, but I can say that he has helped me to stop planning everything out quite so much.  I still feel the need to plan (and control), but I’ve had to relax some because he just doesn’t function within my plans.  Some days I wish I could plan ahead a bit more, but I try to only do that with activities that don’t include him.  It’s a learning process…

Posted by ceausa on Apr 11, 2017 at 7:53pm

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