Parents of ADHD Children
Anybody happy with 504/IEP adherence?
We are having trouble.. again.. with getting my son’s 504/IEP accommodations followed. We have meetings with the teachers and counselors, but then a few weeks afterward we’re back to square one. It feel like battle after battle after battle trying to get him the help he needs, getting the teachers to understand my son’s problems/ADHD, and almost beg them to pay more attention to him. Explain to then that when you have ADHD you don’t remember to turn in papers, finish things completely, write down assignments and maybe even know what they mean when you come home. Why assignment notebooks, borrowed IPads, etc. can’t help someone with remembering troubles. Why homework needs to be reduced and extra time given. They are supposed to be giving him more guidance and direction, and they are not. Do they not believe ADHD exists? It feels like talking to a wall.
They always throw out that the child ‘has to learn responsibility’. How can I keep explaining over and over again that his disability makes their expectations unreasonable? It’s like a broken record. It always comes back to being all on my son’s shoulders and it’s not fair. So now we have to start over again. We’ve been going though this for years and it’s exhausting. We’ve been through the mill this week… again. I know teachers are terribly busy, but why is it so, so hard to get accommodations followed every single time. There’s not been a year without drama or disappointment to varying degrees.
It’s my husbands opinion that a majority of parents are not really satisfied with 504/IEP adherence most of the time. You lucky with some teachers, but I feel like a battle-weary warrior trying to protect my son from being pressured/misunderstood/neglected. Again. Even when a school has a good reputation it hasn’t made any difference to the other parents I’ve met. Across the board it’s meetings, meetings, phone calls, emails, meetings, and then back to square one. I think it’s in large part because ADHD is so misunderstood that with any problem and the blame gets put on the parent and child leaving you feeling helpless. It’s not a lot of fun and upsetting to everyone. How much longer until summer?
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