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Parents of ADHD Children

Anyone do this calculation?

I’ve got three boys with ADHD and one without. I figure I tell each ADHD guy to do everything each morning at least 5 times. Does that mean it’s like I’m getting 16 kids ready for school each morning? No wonder I’m exhausted! grin


Thanks for the laugh this morning!  How do you get the one without to do things on the first try?  I have one with ADHD and two without.  It feels like I tell them all the same things at least 5 times grin

Posted by DP0706 on Jan 22, 2014 at 9:14pm

LOL! I was at an overnight group event this weekend and had about 7 boys crammed into a small basement bedroom at my rental cottage playing video games.  Being Mom to an ADHD kid, I’m well-trained to give 10 minute, 5 minute and 2 minute warnings before the next activity starts.  I was utterly and completely shocked when the kids started to come upstairs on their own soon after the 5 minute warning!  Then, I realized that this is what non-ADHD kids just naturally do!  Amazing!!!! wink

Of course, my kid didn’t show up, so when I went downstairs to find him it was just him (almost 9) and a 5 year-old still playing video games.  It took about 2 more minutes of reminders (I just want to play until my guy dies, Mom!) before he was ready to come upstairs.

And that, in a big nutshell, is the difference between my kid and non-ADHD kids.  Really, I was floored that the boys would come up on their own!  (and how sad is that?!?).

Posted by MendelZ on Jan 22, 2014 at 9:42pm

LOL!  Yes, that is new perspective and points out one of the benefits of having only one child!  But on the positive side you get 16 times the love!  Enjoy the good times and try to get some “me time” to refuel your energy.

Posted by Mom247 on Jan 22, 2014 at 9:46pm

I needed that this morning lol! My almost 8 yr old took 20 minutes this morning just to get his shirt and jeans on and all the while was a big fight because he just wanted to mock me and play on his kindle ( which I wound up taking for the day). I’m already exhausted! Some days I don’t know how I do it but then again I think somedays he must feel the same way!

Posted by ADHDMoooM on Jan 22, 2014 at 9:49pm

Oh, video games! That multiplies the effort by at least 10! We had two friends over playing video games and I told all the kids, “Wrap it up, it’s time for dinner.” Honestly, the pasta water was still boiling but I’ve been here before and I know how to time these things. I turned around and nearly trampled our two guests who were standing right behind me in the kitchen, ready to eat. They seriously got right up and followed me to the kitchen? How does that even work!? I guess you get used to what you’ve got, huh? My kids, however, needed to find a save cube, get to the next level, wait for their guy to evolve, etc…

Posted by mom2-4 on Jan 23, 2014 at 4:10am

Yes-non-ADHD kids listen…until they become teenagers. smile

Posted by Speduc8r on Jan 23, 2014 at 5:59pm

Yep. That’s why my son is an only child.

Good Luck!
Susan in PCOH

Posted by SueH on Jan 23, 2014 at 8:04pm

Oh my gosh!!! I am new to this site, I have two boys with ADHD and two others that display symptoms of ADHD, but I have learned to deal with it all. As I read through all your posts I’m feeling sooo relieved! I literally get worn out just getting them ready and out the door to school. I have ADD myself, so my poor husband goes crazy with just me, then with all the kids. He just has no idea why we do some of the things we do, and don’t do. I’m glad I’ve found this site!

Posted by Pati83 on Jan 25, 2014 at 1:02am

I am becoming a bigger and bigger fan of visual schedules, task lists, etc.

They can be as simple as a small, erasable white board.

They can be complex as laminated, velcro cards that can be made in a similar manner as the software “Boardmaker” sells.

I recommend checking out the program, Googling sample visual schedules for the age, and trying to recreate a free version using clip art of pictures on free software that you already own.

Posted by Dr. Eric on Jan 25, 2014 at 5:12am

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