It looks like you have great start. Eating can change withevery med. you may have to try multiple meds until the right combination is found. Try to ask your child what they feel like eating for a resricted list of options. Wiht the palate expander you may want try soft foods(oatmeal,grits,eggs, soup, yogurt, jello,apple sauce, frozen yogurt/ice cream, popcicles)  On the sleep issues have patience. Make sure you have a regular routine for your child. avoid computeruse,vidie games and tv. These tend to keep their minds racing. reading and quiet music tend to be helpful.  But what ever you do for a routine dinner, bath, reading/music time bed or what you chose do it every night until your child lets you know they do not need it anymore. I hope this helps.

can your dd swallow a pill?  that will give you the most options assuming you do go with meds.  AnnD had lots of helpful hints regarding sleep issues.  It looks like you have all the main questions covered.  You may have questions about stimulant vs non-stimulant.

Regarding appetite, here are our tips:  feed a hearty, healthy breakfast, before the meds or with the meds if at all possible.  Don’t be alarmed if DD isn’t very hungry at snack or lunchtime, but always make sure that something appetizing and healthy is available (yogurt, sandwich, apple slices, cheese, milk).  We now allow “free feeding” after school.  Fruit, cheese, crackers, and certain cookies can pretty much be eaten- she asks, but the answer is yes unless supper is about to be on the table.  Same with snack after supper.  Almost always ice cream.  We have found that her daytime appetite is down, but the rest of the time she eats better because she is less hypersensitive, more willing to try new things, more focused on actually eating than playing. 

My last “word of wisdom” would be that you know your child.  After your child is on meds, if something doesn’t seem right, tell your doc.  Side effects can be expected, but many of them don’t have to be tolerated.  changing a dosage up or down, changing a medicine altogether can make all the difference in the world.  As you child has growth changes, etc, your doc will be your partner in keeping the dosage right.  If symptoms, irritability, etc appear, tell the doc because he/she should be your best advocate.

Hi Kate,
thought of your post as I read this article from Psychiatric Times discussing strategies for effective partnering between families and treatment providers, outlines potential elements to enhance the family-clinician relationship
http://www.psychiatrictimes.com/child-adolescent-psych/content/article/10168/1696493
I would also ask how will the optimum dosage for your individual child be determined and what will be the ongoing means of monitoring of medication treatment.  Hope it goes well.