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Can we stop trying to fix ADHD and just talk for a moment?
I have been looking into ADHD self-help websites for several years. I have been on and off medication since the age of fifteen. I have pondered how it actually makes me different than others and I cannot always find a reason. I also believe that I am a gifted underachiever.
Since finding out that I might have a thing called an “attention deficit”, every fiber of my being has been screaming, “Fix it! Fix it!” I have been trying to “fix it” for a little over a decade. But now, I want to discuss it.
Every time I read an article about “getting organized” or “getting focused”, I feel like a piece of the puzzle is missing. I can alphabetize books A-Z. I can read an article for class and get my homework in; I can make it to work on time when I choose to leave an hour early. I can stand on my head while chewing gum and reciting Shakespeare when people really want me to (figuratively speaking, of course). The problem isn’t that I can’t- the problem is that I CAN and so I often DO all too willingly, but I never optimize the ways in which I am doing. So, I find myself excited to commit and so I overly commit to menial things impulsively rather than waiting for the one thing. The problem isn’t the “how” of getting organized and focused. It’s the “when”! It’s coordinating every activity in my life differently and it’s about changing a systemically ingrained habit that I must address. The little micro symptoms that I add up to the chaos I can deal with in isolation. How do I get them all to coordinate?!!!
I don’t want to hear, “oh, it helps if I make a visual schedule and chart it with post-it-notes in twenty different colors and I have a blue bunny who pops up in my I-Phone and whispers in my ear to check my 20-different-color-post-it-note schedule!” I just want to discuss…realistically…what is the first step in getting a grip on my life? What kinds of goals should I be making? How do I chart my progress? What sorts of books should I read?Are there self-help activity worksheets for this sort of thing? Please, let’s just talk REALISTICALLY about how to COORDINATE OUR WHOLE LIVES for a moment!