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Communication Between Patient and Therapist

Hi - I would love to hear your feedback on what your experiences is/were.

I have been diagnosed with ADHD since I was 15. I have a severe case of it.  My teen years I had treatment but I don’t have any recollection of it because I was such a rebel. Now just turned 34 - in the last few months I realized I really want to have my ADHD under control and have it managed much better - because I am so frustrated with my condition. I had seen my first therapist and I did not like her approach because I really wanted someone who understood and was educated in treating Adult ADHD - and she kept saying oh its your mind playing tricks on you, its just stress.  Now I found a second one, saw her only once. She appeared to be well educated and nice.  She first sees me and says you definitely have ADHD probably comorbid with anxiety. Which I am not surprised. however…she said i needed to contact my insurance to get a new diagnosis test and she will contact them. Of course I called right away to follow up and the insurance said of course, it was okay as long as the therapist requests it. and Also therapist told me she would be able to see me in a week or less - and she would get in touch with me via email.  I emailed her to inform her briefly that I spoke with the insurance and every things set, the rest is in her control.
its now over a week, I have not heard back and i called my insurance to see if she had called, she never did.
she has never responded to me twice. 
I thought communication was important to make sure things are done properly with the insurance, and appointments. I am not even talking about issues discussed in email just that simple thing.  Is that normal with therapist (psychologist)?
what are your thoughts about that?  how would you feel?

thank you!


That is ridiculous.  I am sorry you are dealing with that.  And as far as I understand…...they do the diagnosis, right?  What test does she want you to have?!  It’s based on history and evaluation as far as I know.  I hope you find a good specialist.  I am struggling to find one in my area that specializes in adult ADHD.  Good luck!

Posted by SuzieSubie on Apr 25, 2014 at 11:49pm

thank you.  Really? shoot! so thats not normal… I guess if it continues to be an issue I will talk with my psychiatrist and see what I can do.

She wanted to do some psychological test I don’t even know the name, she wants to rule out other conditions other than ADHD. (I know and admit my ADHD is out of control, is which is why I am getting professional help, I want to do better and move forward instead of going in circles and backwards - it took me a long time to accept it.)

good luck finding one too.

Posted by 100 mph mind on Apr 25, 2014 at 11:57pm

From what I was told, testing alone doesn’t give an ADHD diagnosis. It can give valuable info, but not a diagnosis. (When I was tested, it showed I have a processing disorder.) Also, I would not be too happy if my therapist hadn’t responded to me twice.

Posted by organizationschmorganization on Apr 26, 2014 at 12:00am

Live & Learn:

Is this “therapist” a psychologist?  Or a LCSW, or what?  In order to “diagnose” one must be a psychologist (or psychiatrist or MD or PA or NP—don’t think I’m leaving anyone out).

Regardless of credentials, saying you’d be able to meet with her again in less than a week, saying she’d contact you via email, but not replying to 2 of yours in more than a week, IMO, makes her “credentials” worthless.  That’s not the kind of therapeutic relationship you want to deal with long term (“yes, I’m seeing a therapist…but no idea when/if I’ll be seeing her again…when/if she’ll reply to my emails”).

Posted by BC on Apr 26, 2014 at 12:38am

You have made some good points - I will give it ONE more chance and have a talk.

it is a psychologist (MD) by the way.

Posted by 100 mph mind on Apr 26, 2014 at 1:16am

I was going to add (just to cover all the bases) that perhaps there’s some email issue (like spam filters automatically sending yours to her Spam Mailbox OR sending her replies to your Spam Mailbox).  So checking on that would be Step #1.  Step #2 would be to make a phone call instead of email.

Posted by BC on Apr 26, 2014 at 2:20am

With ADHD it is hard enough as it is to keep appointments…

Posted by Electra2 on May 13, 2014 at 2:16am

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