Parents of ADHD Teens and Young Adults
Consequences to behaviors
This is my very first post!
I am a mom of a 14 year old boy who was diagnosed with ADD when he was in 1st grade. I recently (4 Years) married into a blended family of 3 additional step children (all teens). My husband is huge on discipline and I am not 100% on board with his style of discipline. He is quick to yell and quick to take away something from the teen for their behavior. His 3 kids have always been around this type of discipline and get what pushes his buttons and have become very respectful for the most part understanding the consequences of his discipline. My son on the other hand for some reason just “doesn’t get it”! He continues to be disrespectful in the way he talks to me and continues to “ignore” the expectations of the rules of the house. He is always the one being yelled at for his lack of consideration.
On the flip side…he is extremely well liked at school and by parents of friends, does pretty well in school and only recently has gotten reports from his teachers of behaviors that are “unlike him” (disrespect, argumentative) His personality is different then the 3 other kids in that he is either ON or OFF on any given day. When he is ON…he is kind, loveable and very mature as well as engaged. When he is OFF he is “in his own world” not really caring about respect and expectations. I really don’t get it! When he is ON he is absolutely delightful. He was a fantastic baby, toddler and child!!!!
This past year he has gotten that teenage ATTITUDE! He is VERY impatient with me when I correct him and ask him to do something for me. He uses a lot of words with me like….“OK OK” or…“I don’t care” or…“No Im not!”... and has to ALWAYS have the last words. When he is disrespectful or doesn’t follow thru with instructions…what are you all doing for consequences to their action??? The ADD doctor that we are working with wants short consequences so that he “remembers” WHY he is being punished. Should I be constantly taking something away? He wants to go to drivers Ed when he turns 15 in August…He is FAR from being ready! Use this as a consequence? Just wondering how you are all disciplining your teen with ADD. Thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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