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Anxiety and ADHD
Daughter with extreme anxiety and adhd
My 9 year old daughter has a diagnosis of ADHD, anxiety, coordination disorder, and auditory processing disorder.
With all this, she surprisingly does not do too bad. She has friends, although the older she gets the more I can see she is putting her friends off unable to really be able to tell how to hold a conversation correctly and always trying to “one up” people. She does okay in school- gets A’s on most of her tests (but always scores a “3” on her report cards- 4’s are best).
But often her anxiety gets a hold of her and she has no inhibitions about expressing it LOUDLY in front of anyone and everyone.
That brings me to my current issue. How do I handle her fear and anxiety? How do I help her?
Today she had to get bloodwork. We tried to remind her to use the deep breathing and such she learned in therapy but to no avail. She flailed, kicked, cried, yelled. She was so resistant to her current situation saying, “I don’t want to be here.” Having anxiety myself I know a lot of it is about accepting what is, once you stop resisting, things are not so bad. But I do not know how to get this through to my daughter. Any advice?
We see a therapist but it’s pretty useless so far. The therapist seems intimidated by my daughter’s anxiety. My daughter hates to here us talk about her or discuss anything she finds unpleasant at all. She covers her ears and over talks us and tries to run. The therapist seems to not know what to do with this. And neither do I!
I guess I should add she is not on meds. I want to see what we can do without them. She is taking Omega 3 which does seem to help her focus and grades and a good multivitamin with B complex. This seems to have her less tired. The public and social interactions are still suffering though.