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Day 2 on the new job and I'm getting nervous!
So I’ve taken on a new job and have to assist top people and they have people who work under them in their groups. I’m getting nervous because I already feel like I’m being pulled in different directions and I have a hard time trying to put all the pieces of the puzzle together. I have tO learn who does what, how to look at mutiPle calendars, set up meetings, expense reports etc. I don’t want to say I can’t do this because I want to believe I can. However, I become very easily overwhelmed and when I am lost with trying to understand how to do something, that’s when the self doubt and negative self talk plays in my head.
Most times I have difficulties in processing info so it is def going to be a challenge.
More tips and advice are welcome!!!
I want to be able to do well at this job this time around.
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First of all, relax.
Take a minute after every task so you can re focus. All the best!
I am scared of jobs like that precisely because I have a problem processing so many things at once, but you probably can do it, so just keep on going.
I totally empathasize with you! I understand where you are coming from as an ADHD adult. I have ADHD and dyslexia. A psychologist told me that I “overcame” dyslexica by using my own coping strategies. What I’ve learned is that we, as ADHDers, are hard on ourselves. You WILL do well in this new job. The company would not have hired you if they didn’t think you could do the job.
Have faith in yourself, use the tools that you need to succeed, re-evaluate from time to time, see your doctor, keep posting on ADDitude, talk wih friends, get enough sleep, be good to tourself, AND hang in there!
Keep a to-do list or get some sort of organizer. Keep in touch w/ your therapist, psychiatrist, and/or ADHD coach. Don’t be afraid to tell your boss or trainer you’re a bit overwhelmed, & ask for tips, feedback, as well as what takes priority over what.
And remember, it’s only been 2 days. Don’t be too hard on yourself.
Congratulations & best of luck to you!
Thank you to all. I will hang in there and try my best. I tend to really beat myself up when I start feeling like people can see that I don’t get something, or if they have to keep repeating the same things over and over again to me. I work with very educated people and it intimidates me so much because I am not educated - never finished college (I struggled in school).
I’m trying not focus on the education thing at work but when I mess up, it does play in my head. I’m embarrassed by my inability to process information like everyone else. I want and need to overcome this for myself and for my daughters. I tell my girls they can do anything they put their mind to but I’m not practicing what I’ve been preaching! It’s def a struggle.
I will need tons of support to make it at this new job I’m sure.
Thanks again!
I understand about this totally, I just started a second new job about 3 months ago, and the way that they train people is insane. they would train me for about 15mins and then through me to the wolves. I was so lost that first week, but as I went along I made lists of the things that I needed to do that day and went to doing 2 things off that list first, this showed my employer that I can multi-task very easily. now having adhd really has affected my life in that I do not think like other people do, and that interferes with my daily work. I have to constantly check and check things again and again just to make sure that I do things right or I get the brunt of things when i forget something or don’t do something. at times I feel like a total failure at my jobs and at my schooling because I cannot focus and I do not always understand what is going on half the time.
Hey SHJ125; It’s your anxiety that is haunting you, Not inability or incompetence. You probably have a good sense of humor, so use that to your advantage here. Try to see the humor in an ADD’er trying to keep up the mishmosh of destractions. Because there are millions of ADD’ers who have done this & more, & succeeded. Give yourself grace when you mess up because everyone does. Even those “educated” people you’re working for don’t have a clue sometimes. Some of them would be unable to function at all without people like you to support them. My hubby is a successful man, but without me (his “uneducated” ADD wife) and his “uneducated” secretary he would not be where he is today. Nothing against him, he is smart, & I’m proud of him. But like all administrative workers there are people like you & me who keep them going. I hope this helps. You might ask your doctor about ginkgo biloba or other supplements. the ones I’m taking help me to focus. Do you take anxiety meds? If not, maybe ask your doc about taking one that won’t make you sleeping during the day. Hope this helps
Hi chillya!
You are absolutely right! I’m super anxious about going into my second week on Monday. Sometimes this thing feels like a curse! I really wish my brain functioned normally and I didn’t have to go through this. I waste so much time focusing on everything I struggle with or don’t know how to do.
I know that there are successful add’ers out there and I commend them! I want to be just as successful, I really do. I only take Vyvanse for right now. I would be willing to try anxiety meds too.
Anyhow, praying for a great second week!
What works for me is writing down every step of everything they show you how to do, especially with computer use. Once you get comfortable with everything, you can just stash the notes somewhere. Keep them in case you have a bad day and feel like you can’t remember how to do things.
Good luck and don’t be so hard on yourself!!
hey there, i find it’s helpful to take time in the beginning of the day to get organized and focus my priorities and plan. i acknowledge people during this time but i won’t start taking calls or responding to requests until i feel grounded in the tasks for the day. (even though those tasks might change when people ask for different things, but at least i’m starting from a position of strength not confusion.)
i also find it’s valuable to leave during lunch, if that’s possible. i go outside and walk around the block and feel more clear for the second half of the day.
good luck!
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