Depression and ADHD
Depression that looks like ADD = ADD that looks like depression
Hey everyone! I just found the support groups and am so happy to see if someone can help me. My son is 13. We have always thought he was ADD but he could get by in school and things were great. Then in 5th grade..things went down hill rapidly. His best friend started hitting him at school. We went to the school and they really just brushed it off. It was happening more and more and but again the school said it was not. My son started cutting and school work went really down hill. He went into therapy and things got better a little bit. In between that his teacher told me that I really hate to say this but he may have ADD. I went online and all the signs were there. I took him to his pediatrician and filled out a questionnaire and POOF medication. That really bothered me that it was so easy. After again grades were falling, I filled the prescription and it was like night and day. He started doing so much better in school and able to concentrate more. He noticed the change right away. He began to lose so much weight. We finally got done with that school year and decided to take him out of a private school and into a public school. We were not happy with the path they took the previous year. He was okay with it. Then it went from bad to WORSE! There was a boy who would not leave him alone. He would come home crying every day. The boy would follow him home from school, hitting, spitting, kicking. Then a few more started following suit. I went to the school and nothing would be done. NOBODY SAW A THING! It got so bad that my son started cutting, running away, he fell in the deepest depression and I couldn’t do anything. I got him to a doctor but it just got so bad..then he tried to commit suicide. He was hospitalized at 12 years old. The doctors there said they did not think he was ADD at all and only depressed. We took him off the medication but then it really didn’t matter because I pulled him from school and home schooled him. I could tell right away that he was ADD. He couldn’t concentrate, he wouldn’t do his work or sit still. We got through it and he improved depression wise. I decided to enroll him in a different school district where he thrived. HOWEVER! changing schools, going to middle school, having a locker, HAS BEEN A NIGHTMARE! Doctors still thought that it was all depression. I said .. I don’t think so. Then my son started getting so angry at me. He would be defiant, scream in my face, call me names..we would fight about school so much. He didn’t turn things in, forgot his work, lost his work, locker is a mess and he falls asleep in class. They thought it was his medication but they change it and still hasn’t worked. Last week we got in a terrible fight. He ripped up my work and i exploded and spanked him. He is now 13. Not a big kid but I was just at my limit. He went over the top throwing things and hitting me, himself, it was so scary. And then he cried..he said that he can’t do this anymore… he feels stupid and wants medication to stop all of this. We have an appointment on Tuesday. I am worried about having anti-depressants AND medication for ADD. I have heard that Wellbutrin could be used for both and I wonder if they will try that. He says he is sad but doesn’t know why because he has friends and is having fun but school sucks because he is failing classes when he used to get straight A’s. I just hope we are doing the right thing but this cannot go on like this.
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