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Just Diagnosed With ADHD (Adults)

Diagnosed 50 Days Away from my 30th Birthday

I have just been diagnosed with ADD and although I always suspected something was different about me, putting a name to is has thrown me for loop. Not to mention that I started a new job and this has made me realize I have done so poorly in many areas of my life.  I feel so alone and wish I had a friend to walk with me through this journey.


I’m so sorry you feel like you’re flying solo.  I promise you’re not. There’s a whole section for ADD in adults for a reason. You can expect to go through several stages—“so THAT’S what’s wrong!” 

“This is serious!” 
“I need to find out some more”. “

“Wow. What neat apps there are to help. Look at this site!  Boy, there’re LOTS of things to help. It’s 3am”

” 8months in and and I’ve kept a getting up and dressed routine for almost two weeks.”

It’s a time thing. At some point you realize that as fast as you thought youwere, you’re really a little slower. The good news is, with a deep breath, concentration, coaching and meds, you can start accomplishing things. The guilt will ease, you’ll get some confidence.

Take heart, many of us didn’t figure it out until we had accumulated 50 years of ingrained habits and a trail of broken relationships. You are not alone!!

Posted by Cissy on Aug 26, 2014 at 2:45am

Hi Iralcin!

It is typical to feel isolated and alone when you have ADHD, but you are most definitely not alone. There are things you can do to feel less alone too:

There’s strength in numbers (, so look for support groups (

ADDconnect Moderator, Author & Mom to Tween Boy with ADHD and LDs

Posted by adhdmomma on Aug 26, 2014 at 1:30pm


I was diagnosed at age 65, and like you, I was thrown for a loop. Actually, I was devastated.

I was already seeing a talk therapist, who recommended I be evaluated for it. The therapy w her has been invaluable in dealing with the diagnosis.

It might help if you think of this adjustment as a grieving process, complete w denial, anger (I RAGED at it), bargaining, acceptance, and I think I’ve forgotten one. No matter. You will have a whole range of reactions, and having someone to walk w you through the process might be a good thing. 

I am a strong advocate of using medication, at least until you feel more confident managing your symptoms, and especially while starting a new job. (And in case you are wondering: the general feeling is that you NOT tell your employer or supervisor about your diagnosis.)

Medication for me is like eyeglasses, something I use as an assistive device to help me focus.

I strongly ditto the suggestions above about learning all you can.

Treating ADHD requires “multi-modality” therapy:
Behavioral changes
Coaching and/or therapy to assist w all of the above

Good luck!

Posted by ADD me on Aug 29, 2014 at 3:51am

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