Parents of ADHD Children
Discussing ADHD with non-ADHD people
After my 9 y.o. son was diagnosed with ADHD last summer, I quickly understood that there was no point in discussing this with people around me who never had to deal with ADHD, as they just cannot understand the challenges of raising a child with ADHD. I was happy when I found this group, and a friend of mine who discovered as an adult that he suffers from ADD was of great help when it came to understand how my son feels on a daily basis.
I find it very difficult to have to deal with people who judge, and recently, my own brother had the nerve to tell me that not only was I imagining my son’s problems, I was the cause of them. According to him, my son does not have attention deficit, but suffers from a deficit, or lack of attention from me! Basically he said that my son is the way he is because he needs more attention… not only was this very hurtful, he could not have been more wrong, as my husband and I are always there loving and caring for him the very best we can.
One thing he also said, and I agree with this, is that I need to take care of myself if I want to be able to take care of him. Fine, but to say that ADD is a vague term that medical professionals created to describe a bunch of vague symptoms that do not fit any other medical diagnosis is ignorant and out of line I think.
So I need to know if anyone can provide some insight as to how to deal with non-ADHD people who think that ADHD is a problem created by parents. It’s difficult enough to understand and deal with the situation and challenges of raising a child with ADHD, having to be judged by others only adds to the stress and confusion brought by the situation.
Thanks on advance!
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