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ADHD at School

Do you consider this bullying?

My 13 yr old son has ADHD and is overweight. He also has a congenital issue with his legs that isn’t noticeable,  but has never been able to skip or do certain ” running skills well.But he tries.  He finished last, like always, with laps at gym class a little bit after everyone else.  His gym teacher, according to my son, told him that if he didn’t loose weight he would always finish last in life! He told him he was lazy like his brother. All of this was said, not right in front of the other kids, but loud enough that some kids say they heard him. My son has started not wanting to go to gym class because he says he can’t stand him anymore. He has always liked gym class and I never had a problem with him in this class!
  Do you think this teacher has a right to say these things to my son?  I think this is bullying! What do you think?!


Hi Kim771, sure it’s bullying from an adult.  As a parent, if this person said this to my child, I would be making an appointment to speak with the gym teacher and asking if he feels that the way he speaks to your son and other children are a positive behavior?  I would remind him that in this world there is no one perfect including him.  Just because a child doesn’t swim as fast it’s not always about the weight and can be because of medical conditions.  Reminding a child that he is lazy like his brother doesn’t do anything for moral.  As a gym teacher it’s about being part of the team and not being singled out.  I’d be making a phone call if not by you maybe by your husband to schedule an appointment to speak with this BIG man gym teacher. I’m thinking that it’s a man. Good luck

Posted by happynewyorker on Nov 19, 2013 at 10:13pm

I agree with Lee. I have had to call the high school about two teacher bullies. One cooking teacher told my son ” he would never be a chef” .... Because he made a mistake on a recipe. A wood working teacher that teased maybe you should make “I love Justin Beiber or Dora the Explorer” because he thought his ideas were immature. I would not tolerate this behaviour from an educator. Teachers should be in this position to inspire our children, be good role models and lift our children’s self esteem. Definitely call the principal. He is this teachers boss and he can either arrange a meeting with all of you, including the principal or expect contact and apologies via e mail. I would not go see the gym teacher alone , he may not own up to it, bully you or make your child’s life worse. His employer needs to know!

Posted by JulieBmotherof3 on Nov 20, 2013 at 6:12pm

I have got the ball rolling on this and all I can do right now is see if it gets better, for now. If it continues, I will proceed up the ladder to the superintendent of schools if I have to! According to my son, he is not the only child he has said things like this too, and I told him more kids need to speak up and not just “take it”!

Posted by Kim771 on Nov 20, 2013 at 10:58pm

Kim771 sometimes when a child at school speaks up they get a backlash from the adults.  Now a days video recording is the best option.  I don’t always agree with it. But it does bring in media attentioned. Sometimes adults don’t realize that they are bullies, because the’ve done it for some time.  Showing them how they behave sometimes brings to light.  It’s a hard decision to have ur child bring a video device and record the teacher’s behavior. U may all so want to speak to the other parents and see if their child has encountered this teacher’s behavior towards their child.  Supports from other parents go a long way.  Good luck! I hope he stops, but as ur son said the teacher seems to speak to others this way.

Posted by happynewyorker on Nov 21, 2013 at 2:18am

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