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Doesn't like school and throws fit every morning

My son is 6 and in kindergarten.  Each morning he throws a fit because he doesn’t want to go to school.  He says its boring because all you do is learn learn learn!  He just wants to stay home and be in his jammies and play with his younger brothers.

We have used rewards and also consequences, but the main point is he is not excited or has a desire to go.

We have him on medication, so he is not getting into trouble at school.  So, he is not having bad experiences there, and there are a few buddies he likes in his class.

He just wants to do more of the centers that are interactive, art, science, computer, etc.

Has anyone else experienced this?

Thanks!

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Hello.
  My son did the exact same thing…and as a parent it is NOT fun. Everyday I would try to reason with him why it would be better…he would see his friends, they would go to recess, he would have art….etc.  Then it came to the point that we did sticker chart, then bribes, anything I could think of.. some would work for a day or two…maybe even 3 if I was lucky…. and then one day a friend suggested I take a different approach… Instead of trying to fix everything (as moms do)..she told me to listen to him and acknowledge his feelings. SO instead of school will be fun, ...blah blah…  I said something like… “Oh I’m sorry that school is boring sometimes. Yes, it sounds like art and science are more fun than writing”.  And that was it….He just wanted to vent, without me fixing it.  He doesn’t have to be excited or motivated to go…he just has to go. Everybody has boring parts of their day…laundry, making lunches..so boring…but we get through it so we can do the more exciting things…like cleaning the house wink  Good luck! Hope this helps.

Posted by KellyL on Jan 13, 2014 at 10:40pm

We went through this exact same thing when my son was in kinder.  It turns out, along with ADHD, he is profoundly dyslexic.

Adding LD’s makes it that much harder on them.  Explore that possibility.  It was a huge part of that struggle for my son.  Good luck!

Posted by Pdxlaura on Jan 14, 2014 at 5:16am

Super great advice above! I will simply add the idea that he may be gifted. I would explore that too. Schools don’t usually recognize that and differentiate instruction for at least a weekly pull-out until at 2nd grade or later.

However, the teacher may be able to give him more activities to challenge him throughout the day. When my daughter was in kindergarten, she was the first one in her class reading and was so bored she often got into trouble (she is my neurotypical child), so they sent her to the library for an advanced reading program and that turned out to be her favorite part of the school day.

My son has ADHD and LDs and is gifted. He is in 5th grade so they are still doing weekly pullout for the gifted program. It is, by far, his favorite part of school. Look into your child’s intelligence and seek opportunities for challenges if he’s gifted. That can help too.

Penny
ADDconnect Moderator & Mom to Tween Boy with ADHD and LDs

Posted by adhdmomma on Jan 14, 2014 at 6:08pm

Thank you ladies!  Yesterday I say down with him and let him lead in making a morning schedule so we could do all he wanted (within reason) before he had to go to school.

This morning was much smoother!  He gladly helped me out on his clothes, he got to watch his show, and still had time to play.  However, when it was time to get in the car he started up with his I don’t want to go to school bit and I have to go every day!  He hid underneath the baby’s crib so I had to pull him out and carry him to the car ranting the whole way!

Exhausting!

I definitely think he is gifted.  Actually they are starting the testing for the GT program today for Kinder..  My prayer is that he makes the cut bc I know he will love it.

We are also about to do a diagnostic eval on him to look for other things too.

It just breaks my heart that he is struggling with enjoying it. 

We are starting the meetings for his 504 soon, and so I’m hoping to ask for some more tactile and interactive or computer time for him.  He would love that!

I appreciate the encouragement and advice.  It is comforting to have a place where others totally understand and can relate!

Carrie

Posted by carriecassell on Jan 14, 2014 at 7:32pm

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