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Anxiety and ADHD

Explaining adhd problems to normal people

I was recently got diagnosed with ADHD. Im not on my medicine yet, and I feel like im drowning. How do you explain to your teacher that you just couldn’t find it in yourself to start your homework? Or how do you explain to your “normal” family all the issues you have and, why you cant get finish anything. Whenever things dont get done, or lost, I start to feel like im suffocating. People dont understand why you act this way. They think your over reacting. Or pulling the adhd card. In fact its the only thing keeping me from getting it done, because im not lazy! The stress combined with the inability to sustain attention is getting to me, and I feel like no one is even interested in “getting it.”


Hi jazzmeplz,

Ask your family to read the book, “You Mean I’m Not Lazy, Stupid, or Crazy?!” As far as teachers, read the book yourself and copy some passages that you think will help your teachers better understand and give those passages to them. The author also did a webinar with recently and you can listen to the archive:

This is a battle everyone with ADHD faces. I constantly hear from my son’s school that they know he can do certain things, because he did it the day before or the week before. The inconsistency of ADHD makes it a lot harder for outsiders to understand that you’re not simply being lazy some days and not others.

I think this book will really help.

ADDconnect Moderator & Mom to Tween Boy with ADHD and LDs

Posted by adhdmomma on May 15, 2014 at 4:00pm

Hang in there! I have a15 year old son who has ADHD as well and homework is a tough thing to get through.Give your family some credit and tell them how you feel!As a mom I know we really need our kids to talk to us so we can come up with a game plan to get things going in a better direction.I know some teachers just plain old don’t get ADHD or just need more education on how to help.I think you need to give them a chance too and maybe meet privately and brainstorm ways to help you get thru assignments.There is a solution to every problem, don’t forget that !Love yourself enough to share what’s going on inside with the people that love you too,together you can make things better!

Posted by keeks on May 15, 2014 at 11:39pm

i am right there with you. you are not alone. i know exactly how you feel.

Posted by sehanlon on May 30, 2014 at 10:50pm

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