Figuring out my ADHD
This is my first post so hi. I’ve had ADD/ADHD since I was a child. You see the home movies, I’m running around in circles. In school I did the first row of problems and said I know how to do that and move on. Never had a teacher that got it until I was in the 5th grade. She finally pointed out to my parents, do you see what she is doing? She is smart, she knows this she just refuses. BORED. So I spent my school days in mediocre to bad grades, just getting by with an inability to ever focus on one thing for more than a few minutes.
I cannot remember a time in my life, whether I was 6 years old or today, 44 where this doesn’t affect my daily life in a not so good way. I own my own business who else would put up with me? I am good at what I do and my business partner puts up with me probably because I’m able to switch my hyper-focus to work and really get things done. For instance, I work with someone in reality tv and Sunday I sat down and wrote 3 new reality show concepts back to back to back in like 2 hours. Then I read them later and go wow, I can’t believe I wrote that. It’s like a hyper dream. For years I’ve beat myself up for not being able to focus on much except work. I’m a terrible housekeeper, I cannot cook, because I get overwhelmed at putting together the ingredients to even make a meal. I can’t seem to help kids with their homework I get to frustrated. Lucky for me my husband does most of the cooking. Also lucky for me he has the personality that is more low key and he tends to balance me out. After 15 years of marriage we’ve both stopped pretending I’ll be a good housekeeper someday or be able to cook or keep my kids school lives organized. For the first time in my life I had a talk with both of my kids teachers and said listen, I can’t keep up with what I’m doing half the time let alone keep their homework and assignments. I asked them if there were really important things I needed to get on them about would they please email or text me to remind? I actually asked for help and reminders and they seemed to listen and have been messaging me for important things so I can jump on them and make sure it’s done.
I am currently on 60mg of Prozac and 30mg of Adderall a day. I was on Cymbalta for 10 years but things were falling apart for me and that’s when started to really dig into what is wrong with me and made some changes. So now meds are good and I am now picking apart by behavior daily trying to really see it, notice it, acknowledge it. I love my business and my business partner and I want to figure out how to work with this the best I can to keep us both happy.
I’ve been sharing as much as I can with my partner in an attempt to get him to understand my crazy behavior sometimes and I do think he understands more now than he ever did. My husband is also enjoying the changes I’m trying to make. So here is what I’ve been trying to work on and I’m looking for any advice or suggestion or just ways to make things smoother.
working on a daily to do list which is hard because I write stuff down then never look at it again. So I’m doing everything in my power to go back and look, cross things off and really work on it.
Google calendar. I’ve got this thing texting me an hour ahead of anything and 15 minutes before. It’s still hard for me to trust but I’m trying hard to get more dependent on it.
Using Siri to remind me things. Like remind me at 10am I need to call so and so. Talking right into my phone seems to be easier then typing myself a message.
I spent a weekend rearranging my desk and REALLY digging in to get it into a system I can work with. Not just cleaning up my desk and then waiting for piles to build. Looking at it and saying, I’m left handed so obviously I need to keep my planner and calendar and leave space to my left so I can use things things. I know that sounds simple to most people but my desk for YEARS has been a terrible place I can’t keep together. Now it seems to be a little more workable. Love to hear desk tips.
I created an organizer on my desk that is labeled “I don’t know what to do with this”. That is for when I go through things, know it’s something I need to handle but not quite sure how to handle it yet. If it’s there, I know it’s not finished and it’s something I need to eventually acknowledge. As opposed to leaving it in a pile.
Accepting my strengths. I’m trying to embrace what I’m good at use my ADHD and stop beating myself up for all the things I can’t do. I’m not apologizing anymore. This is me. Sorry my living room is a mess, but I’m not beating myself up about it anymore.
My brain never shuts off and going to sleep can be brutal so I’m working on a little meditation and relaxation at night in an attempt to clear my head so I can wake up more fresher. This works to a point but again it’s remembering to do and not forgetting what I’m trying to achieve.
Asking myself what I can do now to prepare myself for say something next week rather than waiting until the last second.
I would love to share and brainstorm with others who have ideas, tips no matter how simple.
Nice to meet you all,
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