ADHD in Women
Finishing Tasks Only Makes Me Feel Worse
I’m pretty sure this is a common issue, but it’s rearing its ugly head lately and I’m not sure what to do about it:
Like everyone else, I have a huge list of things I HAVE to do and a huge list of things I WANT to do. Right now, I’ve gotten into a bad mental space where the two lists are fighting it out in my head until I give up and don’t do anything.
What really worries me is that this weekend I tried to alternate things from the different lists—I decided I would go to the laundromat to do some desperately needed laundry (have to do) and then I could go enjoy some time at the botanical garden (want to do). But by the time I finished the “have to do” part, I wasn’t able to enjoy the “want to do” part because I was so busy beating myself up about waiting so long to do laundry. Does that make sense? I get no relief from doing the things on my “have to” list because it only reminds me of all of the other things on that list I haven’t done yet, or I scold myself for waiting so long to do them when I should have gotten them done (yesterday/last week/last month).
Any advice? I’m happy to clarify if needed, but this is all still pretty confusing inside my head as well. I tried to reverse it today (went to the yarn store first, and then went to buy cat food) and that seemed to go a little bit better, but it’s still very frustrating to get no relief at all (in fact, to only feel WORSE) after checking things off my “to do” list!
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