ADHD in Women
Hiya, lovely ladies. I’m hoping to solicit some advice from you all. I’ve read some threads where we have always felt different & have had some not so favorable experiences with women, female coworkers, superiors etc. I need some advice in dealing with my greatest frenemy of all. She also happens to work with me on a daily basis, she was briefly promoted to my supervisor for a length of time & unofficially demoted. Suffice to say her managerial duties got transferred elsewhere but she got to keep the salary & perks. Anyway, I’ve been here a few years and I had to kick, scream, cry, pray, and fight to work my way up to where I am today. I worked late constantly. I volunteered for lost causes. I took on extra duties. I worked with bitter, grumpy women who were mad at the world and themselves. I overcame myriad prejudices…You get the picture. She earned her top spot by flirting and getting in good with the then top dog at the company. Anyhow, I really NEED this job for many reasons that would take another page to detail so leaving is not an immediate option. Plus as hard as I’ve worked I don’t want to give her the satisfaction. Most days she makes resentful comments to and about family, friends, coworkers. She used to be the queen of backhanded compliments. She even acts lousy toward her boyfriend & kids on occasion but somehow I’m not 100% relieved its not just me. Once in a blue moon she does something genuinely nice. And sometimes she thanks or congratulates me but her voice is so thick with the jealousy and condescencion she’s trying to disguise (or not) that I’d almost prefer the silent treatment. Shes at her worst when I’m having a low/sad/insecure day then her voice is loud and mean. Other days when I’m feeling happy/confident or rebuke her comments in an assertive but firm manner she lightens up and is more friendly. Any advice/tips/tricks you can give me to make life more tolerable with her? Or certain ways I can tune her out or reply to her tacky comments? Thanks in advance
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