Parents of ADHD Children
HELP needed - Son can be self destructive and destroys things
My son’s background:
abused and neglected prior to adoption
He is 9 and when his meds wear off in early evening he can cause act without thinking. We spent a night in the ER 10 days ago due to this, he climbed up on the tub with one foot and the soap dish with another to reach a tiny window above the shower, aprox 8 feet up. The ceramic soap dish broke and sliced his foot really bad. He went into a rage in the hospital and it took 4 adults to hold him down after they gave him verset to calm his nerves.
2 nights prior to this incident I went in to check on him in bed and found he had gotten out of bed and went down the hall to get a pair of scissors, which he took into his bedroom where he cut up a plastic ball, put a cut into one of his favorite blankets and then put cuts in his sheets.
Since the incident my husband and I have taken turns sleeping in our bed with him, we are afraid he will mess with his injured foot and make matters worse.
2 days after this occurred he awoke during the night when I put his leg back up on the pillows and started saying over and over again i l hate you I hate you I hate you….I told him I loved him and if I needed to stay up all night to make sure he was safe and his foot was raised I would. (I did the first night because the verset had him freaking out and I was afraid he would awake and hurt himself again)
Tonight he saw ice pops that I had told him we didn’t have several days ago, I just bought them 2 days ago and he started yelling at me and unfortunately I yelled back at him so instead of getting one and coming inside (we have a freezer in the garage and he is now allowed to walk with a boot) he locked himself in the car.
I admit I was wrong in yelling at him, and yes I am at the end of my rope. I know I am the adult and I do not have ADHD so I need to control my emotions. Yes I am aware of all of this, and I need to do better. BUT….I am the one he would hit and bite and spit at when we first took him home, I am the one he always chooses to take things out on. I understand it is because I am the one he feels safe with….but it still hurts and is hard to deal with.
My husband has been laid off 3 times and we are under A LOT of stress due to this. He is in the process of being interviewed by a previous employer so we hope this will be a positive. BUT if he gets this job it means him being gone for a couple weeks while he trains and also he will be doing some traveling. SO….I will be left to deal with my sons challenges alone.
I have tried to push up his evaluation with a psychiatrist but it can’t come soon enough. I know his meds need to be adjusted because he can be of harm to himself…what do I do in the meantime??
I love my son and I feel terribly for what he has had to go through in his early life but I am scared as to what else will happen in the future.
WORDS OF WISDOM are very much appreciated.
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