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I was recently diagnosed, didnt really give it much thought until recently. Now I realize that I am the poster child for adult ADD. I have bern on Straterra, then ritalin and now Vyvanse. Im not seeing much difference and I think its because my life is in such chaotic shambles that I cant even think. The guilt Im feeling is killing me. My boyfriend just dumped me because he said it was a one sided relationship (imagine that, I didn’t make time for him) and is doing the no contact thing. It hurts but there is nothing I can do. Im about to get fired if I dont get a HUGE amount of work done this weekend. My house is a mess and Im just spinning like a top accomplishing nothing. Im asking for someone to please tell me what to do at this moment because I’m lost. I sent my Daughter to her Grandparents so she doesn’t have to see her Mom like this. I have no people to ask for help so that is out. Never been one for support groups but then again never knew my diagnosis and how out of control it is. If this comes across as desperate, it should.

Thank You


Take a deep breath!  We have all been there. I know that my not make it any easier.  It takes time to get the meds right. 
You found a good resource here. Then I get like this and have work that must get done, I set an alarm to go off every ten to fifteen minutes.  When the alarm goes off I check that I am on task. It helps me.
You can also say, I’m going to do this paperwork for fifteen minutes and take a ten minute break. I use fifteen minutes a lot because I can usually do anything for fifteen minutes. There are great timers for smart phones if you have one. 
Don’t let the diagnosis get you down. Now you know and can learn new coping mechanisms. You will get there.
Good luck! 😊

Posted by h82read on Dec 14, 2013 at 9:31am

Thank you, I feel hopeful and sunk all at the same time. Why did it take me so long to find the diagnosis? I knew I worked harder than anyone I knew yet couldnt keep up.  Just thought it was me being less than everyone else. Im going to go buy a timer right now. I need air anyway. Again thank you

Posted by bwilliams23 on Dec 14, 2013 at 9:47am

Bwilliams23….you are at a point of adhd at its finest hour, stress..and yes i am also a later in life diagnosed inheritant of adhd…..but might i share a secret….dont listen to anyone ...knowledge is power and know your rights and research your medication.let me guess short tempered racing thought compulsive overanalyzing and lots of starts but no finishes ..

Are you.ready to begin…..please get a paper and.pen and.please let me help u ....and i am.only doing this.on of dont believe.anyone
Because i just spent the last six.months in hell.and lost my job my love i have a non custodial parent. Asked to.leave do everything to not fo away anf a toxic alcolhic stepfather and pill popping bipolar mither who have gone to every place my children attend and say i was a drug addict and abuser….under HippA ACT ....OUR RECORDS ARE CONDIDENTAIL

Posted by meandmyadhd on Dec 14, 2013 at 10:23am

Yes, I am ready even though reviewing the loss and intense struggles of the past are enough to bring me to my knees.

Posted by bwilliams23 on Dec 14, 2013 at 10:48am

You mentioned you must get work done to preserve your job.  STRONG suggestions:

A) clear a spot where you can work or go to library/place of employment
1) write down what must be done at job
2) prioritized them.

If home, shut off all distractions - SHUT OFF INTERNET (If you can); pull cable from TV… 

Schedule an alarm to give you breaks every 30 minutes or so.  Stick to 5 min breaks.

Keep at it… You can do it…......

Good luck

Posted by LakeLife on Dec 14, 2013 at 11:13am

When I focus on the big mountain of things to do, it is too big which makes the anxiety worse.  Most of the time I can take one piece of the mountain and focus on that.  Good luck this weekend.  Take the timer and get one piece done.  Give yourself grace when you fail.  We all do.  Then try again.  I send you a big hug from another ADD Mom.

Posted by whizinc on Dec 14, 2013 at 11:16am

Listen to LakeLife please, he has the best advice on this site (Mitzi too) I love their honesty and they are both very helpful.

Follow his steps, its very IMPORTANT TO KEEP YOUR JOB, everything else must be second place to that right now.

Also you say your on medication?  Well if so it sounds like your dose is too high and making you manic in the head.  Call your doctor and ask him or her about the benefits of lowering your dose or trying another medication.  I don’t recommend going off of medication (Too addicting ) right now cuz you don’t need the extra hassel in your life.

Almost everyone with add/adhd are similar so spill your heart out cuz theres always someone on here that feels the same way.  Also, we tend to get the winter blues (SAD) really bad.  Good Luck

Posted by BexIssues on Dec 14, 2013 at 10:37pm

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