Help for approaching ADHD Husband
I am very new to life with adhd spouse. we have been married 26 yrs but his adhd diagnosis was only discovered after I filed for divorce. We are not divorced but are in financial dire straights. I have spent last 2 yrs working on self and co-dependent issues and FINALLY feel I am at a place to approach some things, mainly because time has run out!
He has refused counseling, support groups and has a well developed system of deflection, lying and avoidance. I am tired and worn to shreds
I once again I MUST approach him about money issues that I am powerless to handle on my own. His family has many resources to help coach him but after years and years of my pleading they have refused. My husband has lied and vilified me to his family and church leaders such that no one will listen or assist. I have one son free of adhd who might could inspire him, but that is such a tough position to put him in even as a young adult.
because of years of not dealing with adhd our dynamics were bad. he still shuts down when I approach him no matter how I change my approach. he refuses to face the problem. he has allowed my mom to save us, but this must stop.
How do I change this? I need quick resources, good Godly council and a plan… Got any out there?
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