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Hello Ykim8
How to cope with ADHD? That is a question that I do not have a very good answer for. I have had to cope with it for over 5 decades, that is twice as long as you have had to cope with it. Like I said I do not have a very good answer for your question. The best I can come up with is that your ADHD is not going to go away, you have it for life. Soooo you must be the one find the best way to cope with it

Posted by Rancher John on Feb 19, 2014 at 12:55am

Find a career that allows you to be you. I need a lot of activity, landscaping, construction, farming, warehouse stuff. Try different things and for the love of Jesus, stop shopping at Wal-Mart if you can.

Posted by Turtle65 on Feb 19, 2014 at 4:47am

These have been difficult times for a lot of people.  Being unemployed stinks.  I would try to look at the reasons for being unemployed.  Were they reasons you can control, or not control.  Don’t beat yourself up for things you can not control.  Take some time to examine yourself.  What do you like to do?  What environment do you like working in?  Do you like being with people or are they exhausting?  Take the career tests and the classes the unemployment office offers.  Do you need more education?  Think about all these things and see if you can make a short term plan.  Have you cut out all the expenses you can?  If you do these things and are still stuck, you may want to see a counselor.  You pick which one-unemployment counselor about finding a better job, college counselor about if you need more school, mental health counselor to see if depression is pulling you down already or doctor to rebalance any meds.  I would also suggest finding little things to celebrate in your day.

Posted by whizinc on Feb 19, 2014 at 6:02am


Try to find a support group. They are free. You have to take one step at a time. I know it is difficult. A doctor may be able to help you locate one.  Talking to a doc would help too but I am assuming you cannot afford one. One can find info & tools on this site too. Good luck.

Posted by ToniC on Feb 18, 2014 at 7:11pm

My saving grace was choosing a field I truly enjoy doing. We have an uncanny ability to hyperfocus on things we care about so if we enjoy our jobs, everyone reaps the benefits. Think about things you have done in the past or even that you do now that you might be able to find a career in. Remember to be patient as you may have to work your way up to a position where you feel accomplished. Also, I highly recommend the job be something that has some excitement or flexibility. Doing the same thing every day can really eat at us ADHD folk.

Posted by RoadtoRecovery on Feb 18, 2014 at 7:41pm


My heart goes out to you. I think you have taken the first step by defining your problem and asking for help. Live everything in life, most of your answers will need to come from you. The best advice I can give you is to stand tall, sit with good posture and smile as much as you possible can.

Posted by SquarePeg on Feb 18, 2014 at 10:42pm


There is good news and better news.  Since you are already an adult you can make the decisions you need to make to learn all that you can about your ADD and how to develop the skills and find the tools it takes to live effectively with it.
If you are living on unemployment, now is NOT the time to be buying anything more than necessities at Wal-Mart or anywhere else.  You say that you are saving, but saving on what and for what?
Apparently, you have a computer, so use it to learn more about your ADD/ADHD.  Do you have a medical diagnosis or not?  If you do, then ask your doctor to refer you to a therapist of counselor who can help you with this.
Do you have a smart phone?  Use the functions in there to set your appointments and keep your “to do” list.
It isn’t rocket science, but it is a process of giving up what does not work in favor of what will work.
Posted by Dianne in the Desert on Feb 18, 2014 at 11:29pm

Posted by adhdmomma on Feb 19, 2014 at 6:25pm

Dear Ykim8,

It’s ok to have a lot of jobs. I have had 20 or more in my life (this may not include temp jobs). But yes, find something you love. I am 37 years old and took a leap of faith this year and took a leave of absence as a teacher, I was employed to teach full-time Grade 4 for the 2013-14 school year. So sure money is tight but I am tutoring to make money, making connections so I can go back to a job teaching high school. I struggled teaching elementary school before I took that leap of faith. I need a job, like high school, that provides more focus in teaching which will help me succeed. So don’t worry if you are 25 and unsure about a career. Try community based counseling for careers that should be offered free. Find what drives you and look for opportunities, including volunteering if time is able. Remember, you are not alone in your struggle and have faith in your talents!

All the best!!

Posted by shawn e styles on Feb 21, 2014 at 7:27pm

Hello, Ykim8, your situation is indeed challenging, at best, and genuinely depressing, so please factor that in when assessing your emotional state:  there’s nothing wrong with feeling depressed by those situational stimuli.  The next thing to do might be to shrug, sigh, and move on to something you can do to improve your lot.  I hope you live in/near a city with good resources!

You have youth as a distinct advantage, especially if you are not responsible for a child’s welfare at this point in your life.  If you are, the ante just rose very perceptibly - just in the urgency of having to find a way to survive.  The GoP UCB and food stamp blocking might be part of your problem, sadly.  In any case, you can learn to live frugally (cook it yourself with YouTube, perhaps; shop locally and at second-hand stores; buy only what’s on huge-sale and stock up then; don’t pay for TV commercials - the good stuff is available on the internet or will eventually reach the networks; - I really can go on) and you can still avoid the evil W empire!

Try out jobs to find a fit - if you can go through a temp agency or two or more, you can get a feel for at least what would drive you nuts on a regular diet.  Don’t forget that many restaurants will feed you for a full shift, so try to find a good one to try out.  At 65yo, I cannot count the different jobs/projects/interests I’ve had.  I tend to want to move on to the next one, once I know I can do the current thing well, which makes me a ‘Scanner’ by Lynn Sher’s definition in Refuse to Choose.

The point is, life presents a continuous series of events, challenges, dares, and like Indy, you have the option of how to react or act.  Douglas Adams’ stellar advice on the cover of the Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy still prevails as golden:  ‘DON’T PANIC!’  If you can work on developing the habit of gratitude, ( worked for me) you, too, might find it to be a key to happiness, laughter at the latest bobble, and ultimately, a joyful life!

Posted by scanner on Feb 22, 2014 at 7:17am

Do you currently have a doctor you can talk to about this and possibly prescribe something? Believe me I know how you feel… I’m 24 and have had about 8 jobs or so since I was 16. I got fired from my first “real” job last year after only being there a year. I saw it coming, my boss was already an asshole, but add my ADD in the mix and it was a recipe for disaster. I’m going back to school to get my degree in early childhood education. I figure a teaching job is better for my personality than an office job.

Posted by _ashlynnicole on Feb 22, 2014 at 9:16am


Look for “credit counseling.” They can work with your creditors to establish a payment plan you can handle to get your debts paid off. Often, they can get creditors to stop charging interest and late fees to help as well.

ADDconnect Moderator & Mom to Tween Boy with ADHD and LDs

Posted by adhdmomma on Mar 27, 2014 at 4:10pm

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