Parents of ADHD Children
Help with my kid feeling 'hated' by teachers/other parents
Thank you for reading, and also in advance for any advice you might give…
My 9y/o son was diagnosed with adhd this spring. His main issue is his impulsiveness and his lack of respect for authority. My question right now, is we have had problems with other kids parents, teachers, and now his current daycare provider, telling other children not to “hang out” with my son because he is a “bad kid”. Of course, the way things happen and the way my son sees things, are always two different things.
Last school year, when he told me this teacher told his best friend not to be friends with him or go to his house, I confronted the principal and said teacher. I know kids view things differently than adults, so trying to explain what this teacher really meant, was challenging. You know how it goes “choose your friends wisely. Hang out with kids who make good choices”. This hurts me, because I don’t think my son makes bad choices, he is just impulsive and sometimes it can be a not so good thing. Does this mean he shouldn’t have friends?? No way! Anyhow, this problem has arose again at his daycare/daycamp that he attends for the summer. The morning aid seems to always have had a problem with him, and has constant complaints for me in the mornings when I drop him off. I explained to her about his adhd, and she said “I wish someone would have told me, I would have been more understanding”. Yesterday my son came home upset, because ‘Ms. Rose’ apparently brought every child over individually and told them not to play with my son. I’m sure this is another instance where my son is perceiving it wrong, but how do I handle this? How do I deal with the daycare aid and do I even confront her? My son constantly feels everyone hates him, which only makes his respect for them worse. It makes me really sad that he feels this way and to be honest the first reaction I want to have is to defend my son and march straight to this person and tell her off….but I know that’s not how to handle it, and he is probably just taking things in wrong. I am just at a loss for words on this situation anymore, and I don’t know what to do about it. Help!
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