Single Parents Raising ADHD Children
Helping the new step-parent
I am a single mom of a 14 yo and 9yo boys, who both have ADHD. I am also new to this scene. I have always just dealt with my boys on my own. They are a bit overwhelming and my home is rather chaotic. My fiance and soon to be stepdaughter are very laid back and NOT hyper. Both of the boys absolutely adore my fiance and daughter, and vice versa. I can see my fiance getting overwhelmed and for the first time since we got together it is taking its toll. See we just moved in together and even though she knew what she was getting into, the reality is nothing like the visits. Just brushing their teeth is an olympic event and by the time we are done I am the one who needs the gold medal. I am used to it. I can handle it and I don’t expect my fiance to take on this responsibility. I know that she wants to help because it is exhausting to deal with, and no doubt to watch, but I know it is unfair to expect help with such things. What I want to know is how to help her. How do I help her see that she is not responsible for them, that I am without telling her that she can’t help. I appreciate the back up and reminders and that is all that I really expect, but I still see the tension and worry in her face. How do I help ease this anxiety????? Any success stories or advice is appreciated.
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