Parents of ADHD Children
How can I help my DH understand ADHD?
Hello all, I’m new here.. I have an 8 year old son who was diagnosed when he was 5. He’s a wonderful boy, but has all the typical ADHD symptoms, immature, lacking in social skills, backtalks, extremely impulsive, Hyper, lies, argues, etc…
My husband is a great man, but I can’t get him to understand that yelling and disciplining our son for things he can’t control is not going to help the situation. we can tell our son until he’s blue in the face that it’s raining outside and he’ll say no it’s not, the sun is shining.. I understand this, I’ve learned a lot about ADHD and want to learn a lot more.. I want to learn more on how can I help him. I can’t get my husband on the same page . As a military man, he thinks that discipline and being strict is the answer and he’ll learn from it. Believe me, I’m not opposed to him being disciplined and paying the consequences.. but DH does it for EVERYTHING.. he can’t cut the poor kid a break. I’m really afraid he’s hurting DS(not physically, don’t get me wrong) and I already see that my son is pushing him away or leaving the room when DH enters because DS probably figures “what’s the point, no matter what I do, Dad’s just going to be mad at me” and I hate that. I don’t want DH to come across like this horrible person, because he’s not. He wants his son to be well behaved and respectful, so do I… but for DS, it’s a little harder to come by. We do praise him when he does right.
I’ve tried giving DH articles, we’ve both talked to the Dr and given him links to read, I think he blows them off. I wish he would read about it, understand it more and how it works and affects our son and how we can help him together.. instead we end up arguing ourselves because I think he’s much too hard on our son, and he doesn’t think he’s too hard on him at all. I really think DH thinks that this is going to go away with being strict and discipline. I’m not sure what’s more frustrating.. DH not getting it and working to make it better, or DS having it.
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