ADHD in Girls
How can I help my child cope with changes?
My 9 yr old daughter has a really, really hard time with change. She still sleeps with us, she has a ritual that has to be done every night, and she gets really worked up about the time, if it’s past the time she has created in her mind that she has to be in bed by her anxiety gets worse. Her pillows have to be int he same postion, the room has to be extremely dark, witht he fan running, I can’t switch sheets because she doesn’t like the feel of new bedding and can’t go to sleep if we have new stuff on the bed. She has to hold my hand to fall asleep and I have to tell her a storyt hat I make up every night or she can’t fall asleep. This gets to be very exhausting to me, and I know what you are probably thinking, why am I leting her get away with this? Maybe you already know the answer, because when she gets something stuck in her head about the way it should be, it’s nearly impossible to change it. No matter how much I talk to her about sleeping in her own bed, and how much better sleep she would get, how we could go pick out brand new bedding for her bed…etc, nothing works.
My question is this, I need to understand how her mind works so I can learn how to parent her better. I know allowing this behavior to continue isn’t goof for any of us, but I don’t know how else to do this unless I’m up for weeks with sleepless nights and exhausted and drained from battling these issues with her, sure I could force her to sleep in her own room and battle this out with her…but I’m not sure I have the energy or patience to carry it through, to be honest, there has to be other ways to get through to them, right?!
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