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Parents of ADHD Teens and Young Adults

How can i GET MY SON TO GRADUATE??when he has adhd badly and schj

help my son is wanting to just give up on me and quit high school he is 17 and is so far behind already he has only 2 credits and needs like 26 to graduate and now just got charged with truancy ,and the school just thinks he is lazy and can do it but don’t want to not true I know my child he also cant get up in time to go since he cant sleep at night ad refuses to take any more medicines for for adhd or for to help him tonight sleep better it is like he is almost in coma stage when he does finally get t o sleep u cant wake him   up


Have you thought of online high school or possibly part-time high school and part-time homeschool?

Our son started off high school in his freshman year OK. Sophomore year was not good, so for part of sophomore year and junior year we did part-time home school and part-time high school. He said he wanted to go back to school full-time in his senior year and we let him.  Bad Idea! He did nothing senior year and ended up in an alternative high school which he also did nothing. He then ended up in the night-time high school. He couldn’t even handle that!  Luckily, our son is very smart and was far enough along, he took the GED and passed each test on the first try.  What a relief!

Look at different options, maybe there will be an option that will work with his sleep schedule.  I heard something from a video I watched on this site-“don’t expect your kids to adapt to the environment, change the environment to help them succeed.”

Good luck!

Posted by pricemama on Jul 02, 2014 at 6:58am

I agree with Pricemama.  Since regular public school is obviously not working, look at alternative schooling. There are many, many options out there today.

Posted by Abner on Jul 02, 2014 at 3:22pm

My answer is same as pricemama’s, too!  If he seems to fit the profile that if only school was 2nd shirt instead of 1st shift he could probably deal better with it, that sounds like delayed sleep phase disorder (one of the sleep problems that ADHDers have in a higher frequency than the general public).  Online classes may be a way to work around that…

Posted by BC on Jul 02, 2014 at 6:50pm

He should think about where he wants to be in two years and not think of anyone else.  He needs to go at his own pace. There are many kids across the country that graduate at 19 because they got sidetracked. Even though he is a little behind in terms of credits he can chart a new course.
Also ask for a meeting with the principal to find out how they have gotten other kids support. Some school systems have alternative schools as an option within the district or share a program with another district.
You could also research home school curriculums or have him go to night school to take the GED exam for his high school diploma.

Posted by Nannerl on Jul 05, 2014 at 6:07pm is $30 a month.  You pick 4 high school subjects at a time.  You can focus on one at a time, if it is easier.  We do one subject, complete it, and then move on to the next one.  There are video lessons, take notes in WORD so he can search for specific information for work and review.  It is considered homeschool, you get transcripts of the assignments and the curriculum is approved in most states.  You will have to check with your specific state for requirements.  NWTC (technical college) offers 4x4 college classes (dual credit - high school and college), the student takes one subject for 4 weeks and then moves on to a new one…  we do this in the summer….

GED is an option too.  Most of the technical colleges can provide more information on these tests.

Alternative education - many public schools have these programs.  They have the kids with one teacher for all subjects, my nephew did this program. 

Accommodations at the school - did you ask for a note taker, digital tape recording, longer test times?  ADHD and ADD are federally recognized disabilities. 

Our oldest daughter just started to thrive with a few accommodations.  She is ADHD.  super hyper.  She found hands on…  career in electronics…  electrician.

Our youngest daughter just started with accommodations this year with ADD.  super laid back and calm….  She is nicked named turtle, because she is slow and steady…  but she tested on her entrance test at college off the charts…  she is only in 7th grade…  She has a slow processor, but it is working and analyzing all the time…  She is a great Lego Mindstorm robotics programmer and builder…  and detailed artist…  perfectionist… 

Both lack, organizational skills….  but we found computer bags work the best….  Morning classes in one bag….  Afternoon classes in another bag….  Big CLIPS on completed work….  The public school lists all assignments online…  SKYWARD…  They automatically send a note, if anything is missing or below a “C”. 

Keep faith, there is a method that will work….  You have to find their nitch….  art, math, science, reading…  etc….  and blend it to the things they like to do with the things they have to do…

Both of my girls are second/third shifters….  but public school is days….  so high school was the hardest for them…  college can be afternoons and evenings…  Homeschoolers can take college classes… 

Our prayers go out to you.  Good Luck….

Posted by ADHD-3in home on Jul 06, 2014 at 10:22am

You are not alone in this fight, @lilhondagal34! 21% of ADHD teens skip school repeatedly and 35% eventually drop out (see these and more statistics here:

You have been given some great ideas above. It sounds like online virtual school would be helpful—most states offer this through their public education now.

ADDconnect Moderator, Author & Mom to Tween Boy with ADHD and LDs

Posted by adhdmomma on Jul 07, 2014 at 1:52pm

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