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How do I fight this constant need for something new, for kicks?

I’m 39 years and got diagnosed with ADHD three years ago.
One of the most challenging things in my life is the constant need for kicks and inputs. Those things keep me going.
But it really makes it hard for me to have an even mood and to not get bored.
Last week I started a new part-time job in the costumer service area, a job I can do well and like. The job is in Northern Denmark and I live in southern Sweden so I have about 2 hours commuting-time each way.
But at home I have my own business as a dog walker which I now need to give up on as the clients get fever and fever ( But l love the job and meeting the dogs everyday and never ever felt bored with this job). So therefore I took this job in Denmark. My first days at my new job was great, many new things to pay attention to, new people to get to know and so on. It’s abroad too so who wouldn’t love the job??
I have to keep my attentionlevel on alert all the time so that I don’t do mistakes, which of course makes me incredible tired.
But now it’s Monday and the honeymoon already seems to be over and I have absolutely no inspiration for going to my job. Sitting on the bus and wish to quit the job and do something else instead.
At home I have lots of fun things going on, writing on a book and am studying Japanese part-time at the Uni.
And I guess this one reason why I would prefer to quit my new job and stay at home instead.
So how am I going to beat this constant need for new input? How am I’ m going to survive this?


You have many wonderful things you would like to do that are not this job. If Monday morning is a bust then I suspect that the prospect of spending the rest your life there is daunting.
So, leaving it is very likely. Instead of just quitting why not plan a gracious exit to the kind of work you would really love to do. There is work somewhere which is worthy of your high level thinking. But you may have to invent it.
You only need to hold unto this job long enough to get all your planning done. And there’s lots of time to research while on that bus ride. This is a blessing in disguise.

Posted by John Tucker, PhD, ACG. ADHD Coach on Mar 17, 2014 at 1:05pm

I agree with John. You need a game plan to figure out what you want to do. Using that commute time is a wonderful idea. Once you start putting your mind to creating work you would want to do everyday and implementing a plan to achieve that goal, you’ll be able to more tolerate the job you have now.

Since you probably suffer from mental fatigue at the end of the workday because you’re having to hyper focus at your job, using the commute to the job probably is the best time to come up with an escape plan. Good luck!

Posted by Shell14 on Mar 18, 2014 at 5:06am

Definitely make a plan to reach your goals, if you have set them yet. I am 40 years old, and the longest job I’ve ever held was 2 yrs 9 mo. I get bored SO quickly at jobs. That longest job I had, I quit, due to a jerk manager. Sometimes there is no pleasing a boss, but I am also a people pleaser. So, when all I hear is negative feedback, I shut down, which in turn affects my work dramatically. I was only 3 mo from my personal goal of 3 years at one job, and I absolutely couldn’t take the stress anymore.
Do you have the entrepreneurial mind? Do you have friends with the same mindset as you, just maybe different areas of interest? Example, my nephew has a knack for electronics and hardware, stereos, computers, etc, another friend has the same interest and skill. But he has 2 other friends that are more into the software side of computers. Together they can probably make some astounding inventions. Separately, very smart, but together AWESOME. He has the same problem you describe and I relate to, getting bored too easily on the job. He also can’t keep a job, but functions very well without a boss over him. Many ADHD people are better suited to owning their own business, rather than being an employee. If you enjoyed the dog walking business, then maybe you can invent products to make that job more fun, or interesting, or even easier for people with disabilities.
I feel like I’ve missed my opportunity with each year that passes, even though others tell me it’s not too late to go to college and get a good job. I now have physical issues as well. I wish I had known I needed to make a plan before I got to this point. I have lived spontaneously, day by day, with no thought for the future, until now. I feel like the future is here and there is no time left to prepare for retirement in my next stage of life. I’ve wasted my life just getting through each day.
Start checking out college catalogs, see what programs they have that may inherit you. Hands on will probably be the most interesting for you. You may be excellent at landscaping, where you make your own designs, each yard is different, many different types of plants and trees, and you don’t spend your entire career at the same building all day long. Or wood working, designing and creating your own furniture. Just some ideas…
Cherokee Squaw

Posted by CherokeesADD on Mar 18, 2014 at 6:59am

Hi Cherokee
You have have given great suggestions and also laid out a great plan for yourself. When I was forty I thought I was old. Now I know I was only setting the stage for the next adventure.

Posted by John Tucker, PhD, ACG. ADHD Coach on Mar 18, 2014 at 6:25pm

Before you try to fight your constant need for something new, you should first try to understand why it happens.  I’ve been reading a lot of books on ADHD lately, and have discovered that NEW things, novelty, new experiences, traveling to new places, etc. all have one thing in common: They stimulate/produce Dopamine production in the brain, which is one of the three primary ones most ADHD people naturally produce LESS of at baseline, compared to non-ADHD people.  Have you tried Adderall or Ritalin?  I have decreased my need for Adderall by 75% by completely changing my diet, (working with a Naturopathic Dr.) getting rid of ALL processed foods, chemicals, preservatives/additives, and artificial food colorings. I’ve gone completely organic (pesticides and chemicals exacerbate ADHD symptoms), and I’ve gone grain, sugar, starchy carb, and dairy free.  I eat a lot more animal protein, and almost no carbs, other than complex, veggie carbs (no corn, no potatoes, no carrots, and no fruit, at least for now).  I have also started working out EVERY SINGLE DAY, first thing in the morning, going for a 30 to 45 minute walk (no matter how cold/snowy, I live in Maine), and going to bed/getting up at the same time every. single. day, 10:30-6:30.  This has been a HUGE help for me. This, plus Verilux HappyLight Deluxe units (I own 3) have also been a huge help in overcoming 80% of my S.A.D. symptoms.

Posted by Chris R on Mar 24, 2014 at 3:56am

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