Parents of ADHD Teens and Young Adults
How to Decorate Her Room and other things?
I am new here, but have been a bit of a lurker for a while. My 14 yo daughter who has been diagnosed with ADHD since she was about 8 seems to be the classic kiddo with ADHD. She struggles in school quite a bit, but started doing a little better once we moved her to private where her class size is about 12-15, but oh my gosh the cost! She does not see the importance of grades which drives my husband and I nuts. She’s a pretty sweet kid, and for the most part obedient when given lots of reminders.
For her birthday we told her we would help her redecorate/repaint her room (we are talking some cans of paint, new bedspread, and curtains - nothing major.) She and I are on opposite ends of the spectrum when it comes to ideas which, I know is typical of any teenager. She wants wild colors and nothing that matches. I want more neutral walls and then she can express herself in her accessories a little. I’m thinking she needs calmer colors and very simple things to help her focus better and also so she can SEE where she dumps her homework when she doesn’t put it in her backpack like we’ve told her a thousand times - I know I’m not the only one. She is a pack rat, likes to have her shoes lining the walls of her room by her door, hates to throw anything away, very messy almost to the point of being gross, and likes to hide what I call science experiments in different drawers or under her bathroom sink.
So, my question is . . . do I MAKE her bend to the neutral walls and more calming and organized atmosphere or let her choose and express herself any way she wants? Do *I* help her get organized and pick her organization systems or do I let her pick her own? I can’t tell if her ideas are really good for her or if she’s just trying to be defiant.
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