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ADHD in Women

How to function without medicine

I am so glad I just found this website!
I struggle with what to do everyday. I am a single mother going to school to be respiratory therapist
I use to take adderall before I had my son but I don’t want to feel that cracked out!! So now I’m on vyvance and it’s not good either. I can’t sleep or eat. I just want to be apple to get out of bed enjoy my son and get thru school but I can’t without. I am completely drained
I am scared of getting something else added, I’m not depressed or have anxiety that bad. And I just don’t think I can keep my life together without it!
Do y’all ever just hate this medicine so bad, it makes me a different person.  What do I???! Please help


I certainly feel for you like we all do. I’m 39 with a two year old, trying to study for my nursing boards and not doing well. I’ve tried Ritalin and it worked before I had my baby. Now I’m on Adderall. It does make me feel like another person. I’m telling myself I’m doing the best I can but it’s hard sometimes. I want to go without meds someday and I will. I’ve tried to find a dr. who is an expert on ADD but it’s hard to find. I’m trying different foods to see which make my ADD worse and then avoiding those. There are natural remedies you can try like Meletonin to help with sleep. Valerian root helps calm nerves and relax. It didn’t work that well for me though. Each person is different so you have to experiment. I would try one thing at a time. It can take a few weeks for something to regulate. Basically, your body needs that time to know what to do with it. My biggest problem is energy level. What are you struggling with the most?

Posted by Tinybluemoon on Nov 12, 2013 at 6:56pm

Would definitely add Omega 3 w/ a high enough EPA (800-900mg) & DHA (400-500mg) content - most are not adequate for ADD, so read the label carefully.
I’ve taken probitoics for years, & do feel that they help w/ overall health.
Have you considered joining an ADD Adults Support Group, If you have Meet-Up Groups in your area, this may be a place to look. 
Daily structure is key, along w/ a simple but adequate day planner/calendar system - visual cues help our ADD brains not “lose” stuff as often.
Since the ADD brain revs at such a high speed during waking hours, sleep takes on an even more significant role for us.  If you are having trouble initiating sleep because the “monkey mind” goes in to overdrive, establish some bedtime rituals that are calming (no TV or computer right before bed as it prevents the restful/REM sleep) - I only read fiction at night so as to transport myself out of my own life & worries about all I have to get done.  Melatonin can also be helpful, but start out w/ small dose (2-3mg).
GABA can be helpful for the anxiety & irritability that can come w/ ADD.  There is an excellent book on managing a number of health conditions more “naturally” - Prescription For Nutritional Healing by Phyllis Balch.

Posted by LCK on Nov 12, 2013 at 9:53pm

I too am a single mom who just graduated from college. I had a late diagnosis, I was diagnosed when my oldest was 5. That was two years ago. The first year of my diagnosis I was unmediated. The techniques I was given by my therapist where acupressure, yoga (deep breathing), change of diet. Second year I began with adderall and adderall xr, which I hated also. I talked to my dr about the sleeping. She asked if I drank coffee and ate chocolate. She said caffeine blocks the receptors that the medicine goes to and your body won’t use the medicine properly with caffeine in the body. 3 weeks ago I cut caffeine out of my diet and started taking vyvanse. I am happy to say that since cutting out caffeine I can sleep again. I have also done the same with my two boys, also, ADHD. There has been positive changes for all three of us.
If you decide to go without medicine, exercise, diet and keeping accountable to someone are very important.
I wish you the best of luck.

Posted by meckelman on Nov 12, 2013 at 11:43pm

You need to slowly wean yourself off your medications or you’ll go through terrible withdrawal, I mean side effects lol. Even after you’ve completely stopped your medication you’ll still feel tired, lazy, worthless for about 2 weeks to 2 months or more depending on how long you’ve been on script drugs. I know no one likes to here this but it’s true and they’ll also find out when its time to stop taking these powerful addicting drugs.

I’ve been drug free (no medication) for almost a year, about 8 months.  And I must take my vitamins, minerals and a good protein drink everyday.  Also, some type of exercise helps.  Ive always had issues falling asleep at night and someone on one of these post had mentioned meditation, so when I lay in bed at night I repeat about 4 different sounds not words, and I can fall asleep within minutes.  Before my new meditation trick it could take me hours to fall asleep.  And when I was on Adderall sometimes I never fell asleep, life was impossible on drugs.

Best of luck and sorry if this doesn’t make to much sense but Im un-medicated and I like who I am and will never alter myself again with drugs

Posted by BexIssues on Nov 13, 2013 at 7:55pm

I am mom to two young adults with ADD, and found through years of trial and error that EEG Neurofeedback was tremendously effective in changing the very biology of their brains, and rather quickly.  I have since added Neurofeedback to my Holistic Health practice.  Yes, it is that good!!  I would highly suggest finding someone in your area and discussing it.  I am forever grateful for its intervention in our lives.

Posted by drmomx5 on Nov 13, 2013 at 11:29pm

Excellent advice drmom and mitzi, Im currently looking for Neurofeedback in the RI and southern CT area, if anyone heres of it in my area please message me. I’ll never try medications again for my add/adhd only natural remedies and hopefully Neurofeedback. thankss

Posted by BexIssues on Nov 13, 2013 at 11:43pm

I’ve just started thinking I really need to take some type of medication… I’m already on so much other stuff I didn’t want to add an Adhd.  I hate drugs that alter the moods b/c they change me so much.  I tried concerta but it gave me heart palpatations and made me worse than before w/ the hyper. I was always inpatient and really snippy and grumpy.  Currently I take cymbalta for my anxiety, depression, major mood rate disorders and fibro.  Then I’m on zonegran for migraines.  I had so many problems w/ finding two drugs that worked together. 

I agree I hate that zonked out dizzy feeling.  The zonegran already gives me insomnia so bad, but I hate taking ambien to sleep b/c the two together just make me feel so dizzy all day.  I wish I could just get better from everything. Ack!

But I’m so fidgity and can’t ever focus… here I am supposed to be working and on this group…texting… petting my cat..and thinking 1000 things at once.  I also have super bad impulse control disorder which has seemed to get 100 times worse since I started this zonegran in Sept.

Posted by whirlwind_jeepchic on Nov 18, 2013 at 7:10pm

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