Is It ADHD?
How to get help, when my primary care Doc says "NO?"
Any advice is appreciated.
I am 57 and did not realize I might have ADD until my daughter was diagnosed at 14, during the transition to middle school and dealing with the “mean girls syndrome,” that is so prevalent today. She is now 21 and graduating from college in a year. She has benefited immensely from treatment. I see many of the traits in her that I identify with and realize my own mother had them as well. My other daughter, eight years older did not and she is a success in her own right.
I finally felt I was brave enough to tell my Doctor, who is my age, and who I have always loved and trusted, that I was sure I also had ADD. She was very nice and polite when she said, “NO you don’t.” Your diabetes is what is causing your lack of focus and the way you are feeling. I’m not treating anyone your age with ADD drugs, when you are already on Type II Diabetes drugs. I was shocked. I had only had Type II Diabetes for four years, but I now recognize that I’ve been identifying with the traits of ADD ever since I was a child. And my Diabetes is under good control and my numbers are where they should be.
Today I saw the Katie Couric show about adult ADD. I think I related to 80% of the questions. Most heartbreaking is the main theme I could relate to at this time in my life. Not feeling I’ve reached my full potential and scared I won’t, which seems overwhelmingly important to me.
It’s the fact that I feel I have so much potential and I’m an idea person who has always been optimistic, the glass overflowing type. I have two degrees, yet I have not been successful in my quest to find my place in a career that will last more than a few years. I have been laid off many times in the 90’s and in 2008, or I have been successful in short bursts, and had several different types of jobs, such as Exec Assist/Corporate administrator to CEO’s, Catering Director, Medicare Auditor, and Rep.
I should add that for seven years, between 1996 and 2005 I was the caregiver, in my home, for my mother who had cancer, and the life manager and business manager for my Dad’s portfolio, running a staff of four, for my father who had stroke based dementia, skin cancer and finally Alzheimer’s in his home, while raising a three and 11 year old, being a wife, and getting my second degree. I took the time off from work to care for my parents, as I’m an only child, and then had a terrible time trying to re-enter the workforce. No one thought I could do my job as a manager anymore ~ go figure, since what I was doing above was obviously multi-management on steroids.
I have a B.A. in English Composition/Journalism and one in Digital Video Production with honors. I wanted to write children’s books early on, and start my own niche business doing memorial and tribute videos, but I feel paralyzed or too scared to try it seems. After viewing “Katie,” I realized I am the idea person who many times needs the solid accounting or administrative partner to make it work.
Should I try to find a Doctor who specializes in ADD and go to them? How can I be so wrong about how I feel? And how can I be so wrong when I see I am not moving forward in my career? Feeling very frightened since I am in the last third of my working life.
Thank you for any help you can give.
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